The Ugly Truth About Abuse

Molestation

Welcome back. Last chapter we talked about the dreaded R word. r**e. I know it seemed a bit ranty.....ok it was very ranty. Like even I went back and read it and said wow. But I still stand by what I said. r**e is never ok. That being said, Let's dive into todays chapter and discuss another touchy topic. Molestation. This form is far more common and is often overlooked by people for not wanting to cause a scene. Girl (or bro) Cause that scene. I applaud you and will give you your favorite snacks as a trophy. In this episode I will use myself as the example. I want everyone to know right now that I have personally experienced very single form of abuse. I have first hand knowledge about all of this. Im not just some angry girl who got butt hurt because an ex hurt me. I have been molested by people who were family. And others who were friends. I am not seeking pity by talking about my past so please spare me and focus on you and your healing. Molestation is defined as harassment or unwanted s****l acts. With molestation the p***s doesn't penetrate the v****a or rectum. But might be rubbed against them. basically anything s****l that doesn't involve penile penetration. It's limited to groping. Last chapter I told you about my ex that r***d me. Well he had a best friend who we will call Gary. (Rhymes with his real name) Over the course of the relationship with my ex, that lasted a few months until I went into confinement to avoid said ex, Gary would always be over s****l with me and make comments about my body. He would also grab my butt and my boobs even though I had told him not too. He even did this at my graduation party. I often told my ex to get his friend to stop and that I wasn't comfortable. Im now beginning to understand that my ex was setting me up like Sam was Betty. Before we get to my breaking point I will explain so of the red flags that I very clearly missed. One being when all three of use were at a little pop up fair. We were in town for a night out and I won't lie, I found his friend to be very attractive. But I also though the same about my ex and would sometimes fantasize about having a threesome with them. Now, I'm not proud of that and this thought quickly disappeared later that night. We ended up sitting is my exes (who we will call t**t goblin or TG for short.) car and just chatting until it was time to take me home or we got hungry and went to get food. TG had the idea of making me climax infant of Gary. Ok, no big deal. I didn't know at the time that this wasn't normal. This was not something boyfriends did and defiantly not this early into dating. And as I stated I was sexually attracted to both of these losers. So he starts rubbing me (this took place before the r**e) and I just can't get comfortable and yes we are still in the parking lot. But we were like 200 yards away from the nearest car. This was a shopping strip parking lot and all the stores were closed. But I just wasn't feeling it. So I told them I wasn't into it and that was the end of that. Cool. We went to eat and things were normal for a while. Thats when I started noticing that Gary took a sudden interest in me and I was not comfortable with it. He groped  me repeatedly and no matter how many times I told TG he would do nothing about it or would make excuses for him. So he was cool with his friend touching his girlfriend. I would tell Gary to stop touching me and that I felt violated. Apparently he would magically develop hearing loss when I said anything. Things finally came to a head when he publicly stood behind and grabbed both of my breasts. I Immediately dropped to the ground and curled into the fetal position and hugged my chest. Mind you he still has his hands on my chest. Even when I made that desperate of a move to get away from his touch, he still held firm. Im guessing people hard started staring because TG finally told Gary to stop. But that was only because I was making a scene. We were in a popular bookstore when this happened. I'll admit that later I cheated on TG with Gary. But if Im being totally honest. They broke me. I stopped fighting back but luckily I started working at about this time so I saw TG less and less and I never saw Gary again. Now this was not my only time with this particular experience but the others a re still a sore spot for me and I'm not really up for sharing just yet. But wen I am I will edit this chapter. Now that my story is over for now, molestation is alarmingly common and as Ive stated it's not ok. No one has the right to put their hands on you for any reason. Unless you're dying and a paramedic is trying to save you. Again, talk about it. Tell someone and get some counseling or find a good friend or a support group. Please do not keep quiet. Get help so you can heal that beautiful soul of your's.