Does it sound to you improbable a man could ever feel that way? OK, you can imagine a guy having a yen for a little group s*x; but can this really be the key to happiness? The way Jacobson explains it, you can believe it. What he explores is a kind of mental masochism which has its own rationale. For example: “The more you love a woman, the more you fear her loss. Is it not a sensible strategy to practice losing her?” Yes, but, you will retort in your commonsensical way, aren’t you far more likely to lose her if you push her in the way of other men? But if you are a masochist of the kind he describes, then the pain of maybe losing her (the uncertainty, the suspense, is always part of the appeal) is something you are compelled to entertain. For you, jealousy is inseparable from love.
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