Chapter Two
What Is Domination?
What Does the Dom Get Out of it?
I’ve often been asked if I can explain the appeal of s****l dominance. One reader said that despite her best efforts to describe to her husband what D/s is all about, he just “doesn’t get it”. I’m not sure I can put it into words that will bring home to a skeptic what the secret is. I can try to explain what goes on in my head, but while he may grasp it intellectually, it probably still won’t really mean anything. How would you explain to a gay man the s****l allure of women’s bodies? Whatever you say, it isn’t going to enable him to share your pleasure. Or even make him want to.
But ok, let’s try. The buzz, the rush of excitement comes from the exercise of power. It comes from the feeling of knowing that when you say “co
