What you’re looking for are signs that indicate which particular approach will get you inside her head quickest, which one will enable you to dig deepest into the particular nature of her submission. The signs are not always easy to read. They can be elusive. Sometimes she doesn’t want to let you see them. Maybe she’s afraid of you getting too much of a hold on her, afraid she’ll become dangerously addicted. Or maybe she’s too ashamed to admit that her secret fantasy is to be kept in chains all night, or exhibited naked to other men, or made to eat from a bowl on the floor like an animal. You have to find the right way to get past this resistance. It isn’t always easy.
Sometimes you think you’ve found it, the key to unlocking her mind, and then it doesn’t work anymore. She’s barred the do
