Perhaps this concept of topping from the bottom is accorded more importance in D/s than it merits. After all, does a Dom not wish to know what his submissive’s preferences are? How can you control a girl unless you know what’s going on in her head? And if she would rather have one thing than another, that’s useful information. It doesn’t require you to grant her wishes; on the contrary, you might take a special pleasure in denying them.
It’s true that submissive girls often show ingenuity in framing their requests in such a manner as to manipulate their Dom, displaying great skill in planting an idea in a Dom’s head without ever appearing to do so. Drawing the Dom’s attention to a pretty picture of a girl tied up in an aesthetic pose or tearfully regarding a threatening whip is a not part
