One might argue that no s****l act is in itself either vanilla or kinky. It depends not on which body parts are doing what, but on what’s inside the heads of the people doing it. Fellatio is an act which can have a very powerful D/s connotation. But can it also be a vanilla act? I would say so. And of course, just because it is the woman doing the sucking one does not have to assume that the man is in charge. I’m sure many a Domme gets pleasure from sucking her sub’s c**k just the way she wants.
Actually, having said this, I’m wondering if it’s true that no s****l acts are inherently one thing or another. Can there be such a thing as a vanilla spanking? Hard to imagine; what would be the point? Yet I have read of couples who practice domestic discipline and claim that a spanking can be a
