Nevertheless, the Dom must lead. The sub may set conditions. She may have a list of limits beyond which she will not go; in which case the Dom will negotiate them, accepting some, and regarding others as a challenge if they stand in the way of what he wishes to achieve. A good Dom never simply accepts what the submissive will and won’t do for him, for often her limits prove only to be the camouflage with which shame covers those things she dare not admit to wanting. On the other hand, he will discover some limits are real and must be respected. It’s a test of his skill to know which are which.
But it’s not just a matter of limits on what she may or may not offer. A Dom will also have expectations about what is appropriate behavior, both within the bedroom and outside it. There’s much to b
