Elena Pov Coping Mechanisms. I've had my fair share of pain, substance abuse, and withdrawal. My therapist, Dr. Victoria said that coming out of it won't be easy, but it is something I can do. I've been r***d countless times by my ex-husband. I remember the first time he did it; he laughed right in my face. “I had s*x with my wife. I got it when I wanted it,” he said. When he wanted it again and I fought back, he would hit me and say it was just a way of correcting me. I fought for a while. Whenever he got close to me, I feared for my life. I would hit him too. Over time, I realized he was stronger than I was—bulky even. Then I tried to avoid him. I would flinch or sometimes fidget when he was near; eventually, I started avoiding him altogether. But that was of no use since we lived

