IN BETWEEN MY TWO FAMILYS

INTRODUCTION

Does family always have to fight because of a tiny misunderstanding? “Study hard, get good grades and get a good paying and comfortable job, that’s the only common interest my both family have. Their goal in life was to make sure I become a graduate, but have different profession for me. My first family want me to be a lawyer: giving their reason, I understand why they want me to study law. While my other family want me to be a businessman: giving their own reasons, I understand why they want me to study business. When I finally earned my two diploma in 1995— graduating with honors, and being the top of my class, in law and business from Harvard university and Stanford university university— my both family had realized their goal. It was their highest achievement of their lives. In accordance with the “master plan” I was hired as a lawyer to a businessman and also work as an acting assistant CEO in my family business.

My wife, chioma, followed a similar path. We both came from a hard-working families, of modest means but with strong work ethics. Chioma also graduated with honors, first as a medical doctor and then from law school. She was hired by my second family in defending the company’s from any court case.

Although we have a been successful in our careers, they have not turned out quite as we expected. We both have changed positions several times — for all the right reasons.

Chioma and I have a wonderful marriage with great children. As I write this, one is in college and one is beginning high school. We have spent a fortune making sure our children have received the best education available.

One day in 2010, one of my children came home complaining about their both grandparents. They are choosing a profession for him to study. “ why will I put time into studying profession I will never use in real life? He protested.

Without thinking, I responded, “why not study the both profession for peace of mind to reign.”

“Regardless of whether law or business, “ he replied, “I’m going to be successful and right dad.”

“I know son but your are studying business right? I said “ do you think that your other grandfather is happy that you have no interest in studying law?

My son smirked and slowly shook his head with mild boredom. We have had this talk many times before. He lowered his head and rolled his eyes.

Though smart and brilliant, he has always wanted to study business in school

“Dad,” he began. It was my turn to be lectured. “ Get with times! Look around: people are not rich because they study two profession’s. Look at Bill Gates, who dropped out of Harvard, founded Microsoft; he is now the richest man in America.

“Dad’” he continued, I don’t want to work as hard as you and mom do. You make a lot of money and thanks to my intelligent grandparents, we live in a huge house but if I follow your advice m. I’ll be controlled like you and have to work harder.

He’s right, he needed new answers. My family advice may have work for me but may be disastrous for people of nowadays.

I knew I had to look for a way to guide my children from living the life my families choose for me. I never wanted to be in any of this profession chosen for me but I have to I’m other to make they both happy.

Today we are facing global and technological changes as great or more than even before. Being brought up by two different parents with different professions tends to affect you deeply.

Learn how to speak your mind and make you parents know the future you want for yourself.