Beautiful yet painful

How does Love bring hurt?

Love Is Painful.

But why is it so painful to be in love? Here are the reasons that you may want to ponder:

1. We Tend To Expectations When In Love.

When we are in love, all we can see are beautiful things. We yearn for sweetness and affection. We also look for the tangible ways in which our feelings can be represented. Because of these cravings, we tend to set expectations on how love can be exercised, and we end up getting hurt whenever these are not met.

2. We Feel Hurt When We Are Not Loved Back.

Another reason why being in love can be so painful is because we also expect to be loved back.

According to a popular saying, the greatest form of love is the one that is unrequited. And more often than not, we fall in love with someone who just couldn’t love us back the way we want them to. This can be very painful, mainly because this blocks you from expressing your feelings for that person. Worse, you do not get the same kind of love from that person in return.

Whenever you fall into such a state, it is best to keep in mind that true love is one that does not ask for anything in return. True love allows you to be happy and content with what you can give despite the limitations.

3. We Start To Feel The Pain When We Realize That We Are Tired Of Giving.

Love makes us selfless. It drives us to give everything, such as patience, effort, and respect. But as we go along with the flow of loving someone, there are also instances when we start to feel tired of our actions. There are even times when we already feel numb, mainly because we have given all we’ve got just to make things work.

But the pain of being tired doesn’t mean that we have to give up on love. Perhaps it is just a phase where we have to learn to take a step back and rest. When we give too much of ourselves, we also start to lose ourselves in the process. And feeling tired means that we need to give ourselves the time and space to breathe so that we can rejuvenate the love that we’ve been fighting for all this time.

4. We Feel Pain When We Do Not Feel Comfort From Our Significant Other.

We also tend to experience pain even when the person we love reciprocated our feelings. This occurs when we do not feel the comfort and contentment of the other party. While this can be easily addressed, not doing so may lead to other problems and even irreparable damage.

The reason behind this may be because as two different individuals, you and your partner have different concepts of love and how to express it. You may be yearning for sweetness and affection, while they are into the more practical aspects of love and relationships. You two may want to sit down on this and talk things over so that you can find a common ground and express your feelings for each other in a rather complementary manner.

5. Love Becomes Painful When You Try To Win In Arguments.

Love, while it makes us happy and contented, also drives us to be greedy and selfish. There are many instances when we fight against our significant other because we want to get something, and we do our best to win in the argument. When we start to think only of ourselves and what we are getting, then we get hurt each time we fail in these petty fights.

Love is not only about getting, or only about giving. It is a two-way street where you give and take. This means you have to understand your partner and vice versa. You give way whenever necessary, take whatever is there without causing pain to one another

6. Love Becomes Painful Once You Lose It.

As much as we’d like to think that being in love is forever, it is not. Lasting relationships are not only made of love but of commitment and compromise. Staying true to these decisions are the things that usually keep us hanging on, no matter how hard the situation becomes in the long run.

However, love causes us the most pain once we lose it. This is when our partner gives up and no longer wishes to continue living with us. This is especially harrowing when we have not yet given up yet when we are still inspired to celebrate this love, but the person we should be celebrating this feeling with is no longer there.