“According to the internet, ‘black tie optional’ basically means that the men can get away with wearing a dark suit instead of a tux, but the women are still stuck wearing a formal dress.” Erica says over the phone as I survey my closet for what seems to be the hundredth time. I left Grace with her piano tutor and went to bedroom to call my best friend, hoping she could help with my wardrobe problems. She had worked at far more formal functions than I had and with her limited experience and the information in internet had to offer, I had hoped we could figure something out. “How is that fair?” I scoff into the phone. Not that I had anything close to what this ceremony seemed to be calling for. I stared at the photos of dress examples in my own online search. A new concern started to w

