DOMINIC I planned it three weeks in advance. Not the grand gesture. I knew better than that — Elena's reaction to grand gestures was to laugh and then feel uncomfortable and then say something dry about theatrical choices, and I had learned to work within the register of what was actually her language rather than the one I might have defaulted to. What she needed was specific. What she would feel was specific. So I called Mama Francesca in Brooklyn. "Her birthday," I said. "I want to do it right." A pause on the line. Then Francesca's voice, which had a particular quality when she was deciding whether someone had passed or failed a test: "What does she like to eat?" I told her. Another pause. "You know this," she said. Not a question. An observation. "I pay attention," I said. A

