The Devon situation, no matter how minor it would appear to someone else, was major for me. It really opened my eyes to the kind of world gays and lesbians live in when it comes to how people see and react to them, to us. As straight woman who stayed within my race, I never faced opposition for my dating choices. I knew being with Jasmine was about more than making love to one woman. I knew being with her meant I wanted to be with women totally: sexually, physically, and emotionally.
When I told Jasmine about the incident, she just shook her head and held me close. She shared her experiences of having words hurled at her back because the person feared saying it to her face.
“People talk about things they don’t understand or don’t want to understand. It’s easy for people to create false i
