*Do not meet her. I will explain everything.* I read it four times. Not because I did not understand it. The words were simple and their meaning was clear and I was not a woman who had trouble with comprehension. I read it four times because of the second sentence. Because everything was a large word and Rafael Lim had spent six years being a man who explained very little and I was sitting on the edge of my bed in a city he had not come to yet and he was telling me he would explain everything and I did not know what to do with that. I typed back: *Then explain.* Three dots appeared immediately. He was already typing. Then the dots disappeared. They appeared again. Disappeared again. I put the phone face down on the bed and changed out of my venue visit clothes and washed my face and

