FATHER'S MENTOR

FATHER'S MENTOR EPISODE 7

MARRIAGE IS LIKE A SHOE.

"MARRIAGE is like a shoe. When you wear oversize, be ready to drag it along through out life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains through out life".

One thing about marriage is that you don't drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is. That is why I thought it necessary to write you this letter.

Dear Singles, When you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things:

PHYSICAL APPEARANCE : Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that aligns with your values and belief, the one who you meet at your life's journey. It is important to know where you're going in life before you think of getting a wife.

POSITION : All sizes of shoes are not placed in the same place. There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have Children sizes, young people's sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe. Your size cannot be everywhere my brother, your type cannot be everywhere my sister. You cannot be a Christian, and be looking for a wife material at a club. Your wife or husband can't just be everywhere. Stick to your values and therein you shall find someone like you, but when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values.

PERCEPTION : In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (Pastors and Relationship coaches). And most importantly to avoid much time wasting time, simply consult the SHOE MANUFACTURER to tell you your size (GOD ALMIGHTY ).

"You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage." Ladies these days get so motivated when they attend wedding and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy.

Wait!!! It is not just the wedding oh. The wedding is just one day. After the wedding WHAT NEXT?

Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it. Ask questions -Where is this shoe made from? (Background) -What's the size (Values) -How much (His/Her interest) -How long will it last (His/Her Character) -Who made it? (Is she/He of the same faith This is compatibility) -Will it match me? (This is whether he/she love you and will accept you the way you are)

Dear one, remember many are dragging their foot and they would hardly reach their destinies, many are feeling endless pains and wish they could pull off the shoes but no way!!! I have seen people with beautiful shoes and when they show you their foot, you will see scars.

Beloved, it is not about the physical, it is the size, you can't know the sizel from afar so come close, build a relationship first but remember 'you are not permitted to try it before you buy it'.

And for those who have purchased the wrong shoes, you can still make it your size again if you'd consult the manufacturer and let Him have His way in your marriage. God bless us all.

God bless your relationship 🙏

📚12 Reasons Why Reading Books Should Be Part of Your Life:

1. Knowledge Highway: Books offer a vast reservoir of knowledge on virtually any topic imaginable. Dive deep into history, science, philosophy, or explore new hobbies and interests.

2. Enhanced Vocabulary: Regular reading exposes you to a wider range of vocabulary, improving your communication skills and comprehension.

3. Memory Boost: Studies suggest that reading can help sharpen your memory and cognitive function, keeping your mind active and engaged.

4. Stress Reduction: Curling up with a good book can be a form of mental escape, offering a temporary reprieve from daily anxieties and a chance to unwind.

5. Improved Focus and Concentration: In today's fast-paced world filled with distractions, reading strengthens your ability to focus and concentrate for extended periods.

6. Empathy and Perspective: Stepping into the shoes of fictional characters allows you to develop empathy and gain a deeper understanding of different perspectives.

7. Enhanced Creativity: Reading exposes you to new ideas and thought processes, potentially sparking your own creativity and problem-solving skills.

8. Stronger Writing Skills: Immersing yourself in well-written prose can improve your writing style, sentence structure, and overall communication clarity.

9. Improved Sleep Quality: Swap screen time for a book before bed. The calming nature of reading can help you relax and unwind, promoting better sleep quality.

MATURITY IS A MINDSET, NOT AGE. HERE ARE 14 SIGNS YOU ARE MATURE :

GET MATURED

You are not scared to be alone.

You realize money is not evil. Lack of money is.

You know that you are your worst enemy and you are your best supporter too.

You realize that life's much better when no one knows anything about you.

You don't care what other people think about you anymore.

You stop chasing meaningless relationships and focus on improving yourself.

You focus more on the opportunity of learning than the risk of failure.

You don't stress about things that are out of your control.

You understand that 9-5 won't help you achieve financial freedom.

You understand that you get paid based on the value you are providing.

In the real world, grades aren't the only measure of value. Connections, background, and practical skills often surpass academic performance. While grades may open doors.

You understand that life's much better when you focus on improving yourself rather than partying every weekend.

You realize that in the end only your family and a few true friends will be there for you.

You also realize that in the end, even your family and friends will leave you, only the God remains with you.

RESPONSIBILITIES OF A FATHER IN A FAMILY:

PRIMARY RESPONSIBILITIES:

1. Providing financial support

2. Emotional guidance and support

3. Disciplining and setting boundaries

4. Role-modeling values and behavior

5. Protecting and ensuring family safety

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT:

1. Listening and validating feelings

2. Offering comfort and reassurance

3. Encouraging open communication

4. Supporting partner's emotional needs

5. Modeling healthy emotional expression

DISCIPLINE AND GUIDANCE:

1. Setting clear expectations and rules

2. Teaching life skills and values

3. Encouraging responsibility and independence

4. Modeling respectful communication

5. Providing constructive feedback

FINANCIAL PROVISION:

1. Managing household finances

2. Providing for family's basic needs

3. Planning for future financial security

4. Saving for children's education

5. Ensuring family's economic stability

ROLE-MODELING:

1. Demonstrating integrity and honesty

2. Modeling respectful relationships

3. Teaching respect for authority

4. Encouraging physical and mental well-being

5. Embodying values and principles

PARENTING PARTNERSHIP:

1. Co-parenting with mother

2. Sharing childcare responsibilities

3. Collaborating on discipline and guidance

4. Supporting partner's parenting style

5. Maintaining united front in parenting

COMMUNITY INVOLVEMENT:

1. Participating in children's activities

2. Volunteering in community or school

3. Building relationships with neighbors

4. Role-modeling social responsibility

5. Fostering community connections

PERSONAL GROWTH:

1. Pursuing personal interests and hobbies

2. Continuing education and self-improvement

3. Maintaining physical and mental health

4. Setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care

5. Seeking support and resources when needed

INFLUENCING CHILDREN'S DEVELOPMENT:

1. Shaping moral and ethical values

2. Encouraging educational and career goals

3. Modeling healthy relationships

4. Teaching life skills and independence

5. Fostering emotional intelligence.

Edith Paul

PLAN YOUR NEW ERA

25 Questions for a Fresh Start

Reflect and take the next step toward your goals!

1. What are my top three priorities for 2025?

2. What is one habit I want to create this year?

3. What personal qualities do I want to develop?

4. What will success look like for me in 2025?

5. What is one bold goal I've been hesitant to pursue?

6. How will I take care of my mental and physical health this year?

7. What do I need to let go of to move forward?

8. Who in my life supports my growth and goals?

9. How can I add more joy and fun to my daily life?

10. What financial goal do I want to achieve by the end of the year?

11. What new skill will I commit to learning in 2025?

12. How will l organize my time to stay productive and balanced?

14. How williac me o reaces and celebrate small wins?

15. What does my ideal work-life balance look like?

16. What experiences or adventures do I want to have in 2025?

17. How can I be more present and mindful in my daily routine?

18. What will I stop doing that no longer serves me?

19. What is one relationship I want to improve this year?

20. How can I contribute more to my community or causes I care about?

21. What are three books I want to read for self-growth?

22. What limiting belief do I need to challenge and overcome in 2025?

23. How will I make time for rest and self-care throughout the year?

24. What is one risk I'm willing to take for personal growth?

25. What legacy do I want to build or continue this year?

BE WISE MAN A WOMAN'S LOYALTY IS NOT GUARANTEE

Don't sacrifice your happiness for a woman.Don't train any woman in school.

Don't give any woman a life that you have not given to yourself. Dont pedestalize any woman.

Don't empower any woman unless you are s*x better than her. Listen to me brothers: IF you know how fast women forget the good deeds and sacrifices you did for her, you will fear women.

The truth is, all the things you are doing for her means absolutely nothing to her and you will only discovers this when she finds your replacement and that is not difficult for her

The only time women remember is the bad you did to them and not the good.

A woman's loyalty is not guaranteed.

Anything you are doing for a woman just count it as loss, never do for a woman what you can not let go.Be wise.In a world far beyond our imagination, there existed a kingdom known as Veridonia. This kingdom was ruled by King Alexander, a wise and just ruler who had a beautiful daughter named Princess Elara. Princess Elara was known throughout the land for her mesmerizing beauty and kind heart. Many men from far and wide sought her hand in marriage, but the princess was not easily swayed by material possessions or grand gestures.

One day, a young man named Oliver arrived in Veridonia. He was a skilled warrior and had traveled to the kingdom in search of adventure. As fate would have it, Oliver crossed paths with Princess Elara during a hunting expedition in the forest. The princess was captivated by the young man's confidence and bravery, and soon they became fast friends.

As the days passed, Oliver and Princess Elara spent more and more time together, their bond growing stronger with each passing moment. Oliver found himself falling deeply in love with the princess, enchanted by her beauty and pure heart. He showered her with gifts and affection, determined to win her heart.

However, unbeknownst to Oliver, Princess Elara's heart belonged to another. She had been in love with a young man named Tristan for many years, but their love had been forbidden by King Alexander. Princess Elara had sacrificed her own happiness for the greater good of the kingdom, knowing that her love for Tristan could never be realized.

As Oliver's feelings for Princess Elara deepened, he became blinded by his love for her. He spent countless hours training in the royal academy, determined to become a knight worthy of her affections. He sacrificed his own happiness and desires for the princess, believing that his efforts would be enough to win her heart.

But as time passed, Princess Elara could not deny the truth any longer. She knew that her heart belonged to Tristan, and she could not betray her true love. She gently let Oliver down, breaking his heart in the process. Oliver was devastated, realizing that all his sacrifices and efforts had been in vain.

In his heartache, Oliver sought solace in the mystical forests of Veridonia. Deep within the dense trees, he encountered a wise old sage who told him of the dangers of sacrificing one's own happiness for another. The sage warned Oliver of the fickleness of women's hearts, urging him to never pedestalize any woman or empower her unless he was truly 90 times better than her.

Oliver took the sage's words to heart, realizing the error of his ways. He vowed to never again sacrifice his own happiness for the love of a woman. He returned to the kingdom with a newfound sense of self-worth and independence, determined to carve his own path in life.

Princess Elara, too, learned a valuable lesson from Oliver's unrequited love. She realized the importance of honesty and loyalty in a relationship, and vowed to never again deceive herself or others. She sought out Tristan, determined to fight for their love no matter the cost.

In the end, Oliver and Princess Elara both found happiness in their own ways. Oliver became a renowned knight, respected and admired throughout the kingdom. Princess Elara and Tristan were finally able to be together, their love enduring the trials and tribulations of time.

And so, in the mystical kingdom of Veridonia, the tale of Oliver and Princess Elara became a cautionary one, a reminder to never sacrifice one's own happiness for the love of another. Love is a powerful force, but it should never come at the expense of one's own well-being and self-worth.

MY FATHER'S ADVICE...

1. Not everything will go as you expect in your life. This is why you need to drop expectations and go with the flow.

2.Reduce bitterness from your life, that s**t delays blessings!

3. Dating a supportive woman is everything.

4. If you want to be successful, you must respect one rule - Never lie to yourself.

5. If your parents always count on you, don't play the same game with those who count on their parents.

6. Chase goals, not people.

7. Your 20's are your selfish years, build yourself, choose yourself first at all cost.

8. Detachment is power. Release anything that doesn't bring you peace.

9. Only speak when your words are more beautiful than your silence.

10. Invest in your looks. Do it for no one else but yourself. When you look good, you feel good. Normalize dressing well, you're broke not mad.

11. Some people want to see everything go wrong for you because nothing is going right for them.

12. Being a good person doesn't get you loved. It gets you used.

13. Don't be afraid of losing people, be afraid of losing yourself by trying to please everyone around you.

14. Keep your move private. Don't announce it until it's SEALED! Premature announcements attract bad spirits. Best thing you can do is stop telling people what's going on in your life.

15. For the sake of your mental health don't love too hard, therapy sessions are expensive. Also, marry when you're ready, not when you're lonely.

16. Your thoughts are very powerful, make them positive.

17. Social media will make you envy someone you should actually pity.

18. Nobody owes you anything on your birthday, learn to save money and spoil yourself.

19. That move you're scared to make might just be the one that changes everything. Do it. Move.

20. Dont mess up your progress trying to rush the process.

21. No matter how thirsty you are, there are some people you should never ask for water.

22. Add value to your life, learn a skill, develop yourself.

23. Never love someone to the point where you no longer mind them hurting you.

24. You are your own best friend. Never ever, put yourself down.

25. Sometimes people come back in your life just to check if you're still stupid.

26. The sooner you figure out which chairs don't belong at your table, the more peaceful your meals become.

27. If you want to run, first you must learn to walk. Yes, the dreams are big, but you have to start somewhere, and doing something is better than nothing at all. Start small, stay consistent and watch it get bigger.

28. Before spending money on someone else, make sure your family is good.

29. What comes easy, won't last. What lasts, won't come easy.

30. Normalize lying to people who ask you lots of questions about your personal life.

31. One day you'll test HIV positive because of forgiving cheating partners.

32. Some Ex's need to understand that even if we hear they now drive a plane or own the world, we will never regret leaving them.

33. Avoid peer pressure.

34. Do not abuse and kill women. Respect yourself.

35. Not everyone at your work place is your friend.

~ Do your job.

~ Get paid.

~ Go home.