Destined to be

chapter 71

Previously ;

Tyler: " What when did that happen . "

Steven: " You also have a little catching up to do . "

Tyler: " I am on my way . I will be there soon . "

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Steven was excited to move in with Clara but he also had some questions in his head .

How to make her feel welcome ?

What if she didn't feel home here ?

The only person he trusted with his love life was his mother . He knew that she will never give her wrong suggestion .

He went to her room .

Steven: " Hey mom what are you doing ? "

Estella: " Nothing much just changing the flowers . So . . . . . . tell me what is troubling you . "

Steven: " How did you know that something was troubling me ? "

Estella: " I am your mother . I can sense it . "

Steven: " Actually I am worried . "

Estella: " What for ? "

Steven: " About Clara . "

Estella: " I am listening . "

Steven: " Now Clara has moved in with me and I want her to feel like home here . I want to make her feel welcome but I don't know what to do . "

Estella: " Well it is so sweet of you that you are thinking this . Moving in is a really big step and you both will have to make some adjustments .We often picture a move-in filled with romance and spontaneity and fun . But the truth is sharing a space requires a whole slew of tough conversations .

Even couples that spend a lot of time together still don’t encounter the challenges that come from living under the same roof "

Steven: " I know . . . . . . . . . but what should I do . "

Estella: " It is possible that you may feel like you are losing a piece of yourself — or a chunk of your house— when your fiancé moves in , but don't let resentment sink its teeth into this otherwise happy situation . "

Steven: " Yes but I have never seen it as an issue . "

Estella: " It is good because by making room for your partner , you realize that you are gaining companionship and the opportunity to consider your partner's tastes in order to begin expressing yourselves together as a couple . "

Steven: " Ok and what else ? "

Estella: " Once you move in together , your bedroom should be more than the space where you get busy . Get new bedding that reflects both of your tastes as well as something you each feel comfortable with . "

Steven: " That is a great point . My room is no longer the boy's room I will look into that . "

Estella: " Yes the bedroom is a place of intimacy and retreat , so you both should feel welcome there . "

Steven: " I will change the colors of the room . "

Estella: " That is good just remember an ultra-feminine or ultra-masculine color scheme could make your fiancé uncomfortable . "

Steven: " So which colors should I go for . "

Estella: " Be ready to change colors , and be open to changing it to something more neutral .

When it comes to making room in your storage space , simply clearing out a drawer or corner won't do .

Freeing up a limited amount of space in the main closet or, worse, making them use a closet in another room screams ' you're not equally important ' . So make sure you don't do that . This is true whether it's the master closet or space under the sink . If you want them to feel like this is their home too , then make sure that Clara can't be shoved into inconvenient places .

You know that you are used to falling asleep to the soothing sounds of the TV , but you also know that Clara needs complete silence to zonk out , she might as well move onto the couch if you're unwilling to find a new way to unwind but that doesn't looks so fine . Be flexible around your own personal habits in terms of what time you go to bed , whether you like to watch TV beforehand , and so on . Try not to disrupt your partner, and also respect that your partner is bringing their own habits into the home. It's important to compromise with each other and find a balance between the two . "

Steven: " I understand what you are saying here and I am willing to make all the compromises . "

Estella: " It is good that you are ready to adjust . Here are are few things that you should be aware of ;

I know right now it seems all beautiful but it can also be challenging . Do be aware that things are inevitably going to change in your relationship — including the way you feel about one another , they way you interact , and how you envision the future . "

Steven: " It sounds scary . "

Estella: " I know it does but most of the changes are pretty awesome . You are used to making unilateral decisions about things , both big and small . Well , that is all going to change now . Every decision you make is by consensus, whether that's to buy a new couch, or what you’re having for dinner. You didn’t just agree to share a mailbox —you agreed to share your life, so you have to be willing to actually do that, which means including your partner in the choices you make .

Remember when weekends meant hitting the clubs ? Or going out to see one another ? Well , now you don't have to go anywhere to get that quality time — plus you can do it in pajamas . So this is a plus point . You both will be together all day and night . "

Steven: " That does sound amazing . "

Estella: " While living with your love brings plenty of amazing benefits , there are some downsides. Namely privacy; you don’t have it anymore . When in relationship both partner hide some stuffs from each other . Well you can't do that from now on . . . . . . . . . .

The things you fight about are going to change . In the past , your arguments were probably mostly relational — things like how you talk , or act toward one another . When you live together , you might have brand new things to fight about .

You’ll fight about some of the same things you fought about before — but now you’ll also fight about things like house work , having guests over. . . . . . . . .

Even though you get along swimmingly now , it’s totally possible — and common — that you and Clara will experience a brand new set of relationship problems after moving in together . But they don’t have to mean the end of your coupling . "

Steven: " I get it we have a whole new challenge ahead . "

Estella: " Yes and welcome it with open arms . Moving in together means you’ll see each other at your ' worst ' on a way more regular basis , and that can certainly create more opportunities to let each other down . With the added pressure of being together all the time — even when you are irritated , depressed , overwhelmed , etc. — you may find that you get burnt out or don’t know how to help one another , which can lead to hurt feelings .

What was once cute, for instance, can suddenly seem extremely irritating when you deal with it every day .

As living together becomes more familiar, the excitement can start to fade . It is important not to interpret this change as ‘ falling out of love ’ but as an invitation to bring novelty , playfulness , and creativity into your lives . "

Steven: " I don't think that it will be an issue with us . "

Estella: " It is good to be prepared . So you don't get a lot of surprises . "

Steven: " It is always comforting to talk to you . "

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Clara and Rachel were reliving old days over a sip of coffee . Clara told him about the wedding .

Rachel: " Enough about Tyler and Mindy , tell me what is going on in your life . "

Clara: " Well I have moved in with him as you know . "

Rachel: " And you fixed a date to get married , I know . I wish you all the best because you know Mindy and I got sucked up . I really hope that same thing don't happen with you . "

Clara: " Well it won't . "

Rachel: " You don't sound so sure . Are you having second thoughts about marrying him . Are you getting a cold feet ? "

Clara: " No , I know that I want to get married to him but I also want to mark my territory so that no other girl look at him . You know just to make the world know that Steven is mine and bitches keep your hands off him . "

Rachel: " Does it have anything to do with the girl that is living at your house . Miss unwanted guest . What is her name . Lily or something right ? "

Clara: " It is Emily . And you know she is driving me crazy . "

Rachel: " What is the exact situation with her ? "

Clara: " I think she is presenting herself as vulnerable just to get close to Steven . "

Rachel: " How does Steven treats her ? "

Clara: " Actually Steven cares a lot about her . And not just her also her child . "

Rachel: " Emily has a child ! . . . . . . why was she so desperate to have a child . "

Clara: " You haven't heard the best part yet . "

Rachel: " So what is the best part ? "

Clara: " She don't even know who is the father of her child . . . . . . . "

Rachel: " What ? . . . . . . . How many guys does she sleep with ? "

Clara: " Exactly ! how can I trust this kind of a girl . "

Rachel: " Yes but do you trust Steven . "

Clara: " I do . . . . . . . "

Rachel: " Again you don't sound so sure . "

Clara: " Well I don't like why Steven is so attached to her if he is not attracted to her . And you won't believe he stood up for her against me and he forced me to say her sorry . We have been fighting a lot lately because of her . He says that he is just being kind but come on he is a boy and she is a girl . "

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