Destined to be

chapter 65

Previously ;

Estella: " And you know how he looks like ? "

Emily: " No . .oh . "

Estella: " Not all question deserves an answer . Sometimes it's good to leave things in the hands of almighty . "

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Emily: “ I guess you are right. I will stop hovering over it now.”

Estella: “ Well good for you.”

Emily: “ I have got this big break earlier I was unsure if I wanted to take it. . . . .”

Estella: “ Does Clara have any involvement in that.”

Emily: “ Long story cut short we both were selected for the same part. I made it till the last . “

Estella: “ Good for you .”

Emily: “ This project will make me financially independent. I won’t be a burden on anyone then. And it is important for everyone to be Independent. I will Show my so called family that I can survive without them. I can give a good life to my daughter without their support “

Estella: “ Don’t let anyone affect the way you think.”

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Clara: “ Hey Steven!”

Steven: “ Hi Clara.”

Clara: “ So what are you doing . And missing me won’t pass as a work.”

Steven: “ You are in a good mood.”

Clara: “ Is that a bad thing? Do you prefer me to be sad.”

Steven: “ Oh I am sorry that's not what I meant.”

Clara: “ I know. . . I am just messing with you.”

Steven: “ What’s up with you? ”

Clara: “ I have taken a decision and now I want your approval.”

Steven: “ You don’t need my approval. What ever you decide I will be there by your side.”

Clara: “ I know that but its kind of a Big deal.”

Steven: “Ok tell me.”

Clara: “Valentines day is in a month.”

Steven: “ Do you want any gift?”

Clara: “ No. . . . . . . . Don’t interrupt in between. Valentines day is in a month and I will like us to get married then.”

Steven: “ Are you messing up with me again?”

Clara: “ No. . . . . . But only if its fine with you. I am just laying forward an offer. If you want you can just. . . . . . . . . . . . . .”

Steven: “ Yes, oh my god yes. Is that even a question. Valentines day is the most romantic day in the year and what’s better than getting married then.”

Steven pulls Clara closer and wraps her in his arms.

Clara: “ I have one more thing to say. “

Steven: “ I love you Too. . . . . . . . . . .”

Clara: “ Well I was not going to say that.”

Steven: “ so you don’t love me. . . . . . . . .”

Clara: “ Of course I do. . . . . . . Do who's messing now.”

Steven: “ I am sorry. . . . . . . Say.”

Clara: “ Things have been a little rough between us lately so I think that till we get married I should move in with you. . . . . What do you say.”

Steven: “ I say that I could not have been happier. I always thought that I am the one thinking about us, its good to See thqt we are equally important to you.”

Clara: “ I wonder what makes you think that?”

Steven: “ I am sorry. . . . . . . . . I am so happy.”

Clara: “ I have one more question which is more kind of a favour.”

Steven: “ anything. . . . . . . . . . .”

Clara: “ My friend is coming to the town for a while can she stay here with us.”

Steven: “ Its also your house. You don’t have to ask me.”

Clara: “ I can’t believe we will be living together. . . . . . . . . . . It is so exciting.”

Steven: “ I know I cant wait for the day when I will hold your hand in front of the whole world and I will proudly say that the prettiest girl in the world in mine.”

Clara: “ Oh I know I am the Prettiest.”

Steven: “ I have one thing to say . . . I have talked to Emily she will shift in the Apartment but it will take a few days.”

Clara: “ ok, I am sorry I have been rude to you lately and I am really sorry for that. I never meant anything and above all I trust you more than I love you. I will no longer act all crazy and jealous.”

Steven: “ I will go and tell good News to mom.”

Clara: “ ok.”

Steven was happy because he thought that finally good things were happening with him and Clara . Lately he used to spend hours in fear and dilemma , fear that Clara will leave me , fear of what his life will be if she ever left him .

Did she love him ? Yes . Was he worried about that ? No . He was worried that Clara's insecurity will ruin every thing from them . But now Clara fixed their wedding day ! How great was it . He was waiting for this day and now just 30 more days to go . After that he will be to proudly hold her hand forever .

On the other hand Clara was insecure that Emily had an affection for Steven . For her Steven was like her personal property no girl was allowed around him . People become possessive when they are in love and it is fine .

But when you prioritize possessiveness over love that is where things go wrong .

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If you want to have a happy love life , it is necessary to differentiate between love and possession . While the love of your partner makes you , the possessiveness of your partner breaks you . While in love there’s trust , willingness to share , comfort , and respect for each other’s space, whereas possessiveness is anything but that.

Possessiveness is closely linked to jealousy . There are selfishness and distrust , which hampers the freedom of the other party in the relationship . Related to an individual’s fear , mistrust , and insecurity , possessiveness in a relationship is the deep need to hold on to a person for himself or herself only . . . . . .

Some people get disturbed or throw fits when their partner spends time with anyone else . Sometimes , when people don’t even want their partners to pursue interests outside the relationship . Basically , possessiveness makes us want all of someone’s attention and love . In a few words , a possessive relationship leads to total destruction . . . . . . . . . . . .

Possessiveness stems from neediness . You need someone because you feel he or she fulfills you in some way and you are incomplete without them .

Clara was insecure .

Basically , the driving force behind the possessiveness is insecurity . It’s this insecurity that tends to create tensions between the partners and make the relationship constricting rather than liberating – as love should be . . . . . . . . . . . . .

The possessiveness makes the person incomplete about them. The thought of losing a relationship makes them fearful as they tend to lose something very valuable to them . Hence , they tend to anything and everything to hold onto it .

On the other hand, love is the will to offer one’s time, energy, and care with the only objective to nurture one’s own or another’s spiritual growth. It arises from the sense of completeness . . . . . . . . . . . .

When you love yourself, you feel complete and fulfilled. More importantly, you choose to love another person. There is neither a force involved nor pressure on the other person. You don’t have any desire to control the other person. Your love doesn’t depend on how often you touched each other. You don’t have to know everything about the person’s day to day activities. And, neither you have an expectation from the other person to spend every moment with you ! . . . . . . . . . .

The predominant thought is – “ I will lose something valuable if I lose this relationship. Therefore, I must do everything to hold on to it.” The operative emotion here is a fear of loss leading to threats, drama, tears, begging and eventually misery and deterioration in the relationship.

Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is thread, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years.

Where will it lead them ?

Unconditional love is what it takes to make a marriage or a relationship work . Just giving in without having a greed to receive anything in return . But love alone is not sufficient . Love and trust go hand in hand . Where there is love there is trust . You can never be in love with a person if you don't trust them .

Clara claimed that she loved Steven but still she didn't trusted him . There was a. . . What we call , insecurity , in her heart that Steven's love was not sincere . She doubted him with Emily . Could she really be in love with him if she didn't trust him ? It's a question to wonder . Without trust, each moment in your life becomes a nightmare. It is difficult for relationships to thrive. In fact, a relationship without trust is simply chaotic and dysfunctional. Trust is the faith you have in someone that they will always remain loyal to you and love you. To trust someone means that you can rely on them and are comfortable confiding in them because you feel safe with them.

It is the building block for any relationship without which the foundation will always remain shaky.

rust is that foundation upon which your relationship can survive the hardest of times. In fact, without trust, you cannot sustain your relationship for a long time.

Lack of trust is one of the reasons for relationships to fall apart.

It is the binding factor for all cracks and differences in a relationship. You know deep down that you can overcome the problems and feel safe and secure with your partners .

When you get hurt in your relationship, you get over it due to the deep trust that you have in your spouse.

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