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Introduction: The Unsures

Introduction: The UnsuresIf you picked this book off the shelf because of its title, you probably need to read it as much as I needed to write it. My stories are by no means unique; my relationship experience is quite likely written on some of the same pages as your own.

If you are a lesbian, it is highly unlikely you haven’t come across the women I refer to as “the unsures.” Perhaps you had a different name for them or found these women in your own life to be indefinable by words alone. The unsures go beyond the bisexual realm. I exist in a world where, for myself, I could only ever imagine having been born gay or straight. By my own definition, being a lesbian does not mean I cannot appreciate male beauty, personality characteristics, or even s****l appeal. But it does mean I know beyond the shadow of a doubt I will not “wind up with” a male partner someday. Within my heart, I just know. Gay people of both sexes understand this. As it turns out, the rest of the world does not.

We live in an age of s****l revolution and a redefining of the concept of gender which is, in and of itself, a good thing. Most people actually don’t live in the head space or even emotional space I do, where gay and straight exist in a clear-cut dichotomy. There is a lot of room between points A and B. The women in these stories fall at varying points on the in-between. From bisexual and bi-curious to sexually uncertain and—my personal favorite—“mostly” straight.

I wish you peace as you join me on the journey of these pages. If you have lived my experience, know you are okay as you are. At the end of the day, I still believe we can’t really pick who we’ll fall in love with. That is the very magic beneath these stories. Through it all, there is something very pure underneath. Something like love.