IRRESISTIBLE WOMAN

CHAPTER 2:How To Become The Man That She Needs

How to Be and Remain THE MAN When Relating with

a Woman

Firstthingsfirst,Ihavesomebadnewsforyou.

Are you ready forit?

Well,thebadnewsisthatyourniceguypersonaisactuallyruiningyourchances

ofbuildingandmaintainingattractionwithawoman.Andifyou’realreadyina

relationshipwithagoodwomanitmaybecausinghertoloseherrespect,desire,

and admiration foryou.

I told you it was bad news.

But never fear, because the good news is that you can change your nice guy

persona,takechargeofyourlife,andhavethekindoffulfillingrelationshipthat

youbothwillenjoyimmensely.Trustme,agoodwomanWANTSyoutogrowa

pair...and hold ontothem.

Yourwifeorgirlfrienddoesnotwantyoutogiveyourpowerovertoher.Infact,

this is the one thing that if you give it to her she will undoubtedly, without

question, lose her respect and attraction for you on every level. I don’t know

how to explain it any better thanthis.

Sure, you might be saying to yourself that women like being with nice, sweet

guys and that you may even know a few nice guys in what may seem like

successful relationships. Well, let me educate you here buddy, and listen to me

carefully… If you want to remain in a healthy, meaningful, and fulfilling

relationship with a phenomenal woman who wants nothing more than to treat

you like a king and to be treated like royalty as well, then you’re going to have

to learn how to go from Mr. Nice-guy to Johnny Bad-guy in a heartbeat when it’s necessary.

Don’t worry, becoming the “bad guy” doesn’t mean you have to change who

you are. In fact, being yourself is all about becoming more authentic with what

you’re really all about. It is essential in attracting and keeping a woman that is

right for you.

Now, there are certain aspects of yourself that may need to be improved uponif

you’re going to transform into the BEST version of yourself. This is the very

sameversionthatistheperfectmatchforthewomanthatyoureallywantorthe

woman that you’re already crazyabout.

But I think it bears repeating: a high-quality woman wants nothing to do with a

“nice guy”. Don’t worry; I’ll be more than happy to explain to you why this is.

Since in all honesty, I myself had to change my “nice guy” ways as well.

3 Reasons Why No Woman in Her RIGHTMind Wants

to Be With Mr.Nice-Guy

The title pretty much says it all. But I’ll reiterate just in case you might have

missed it.

No good woman in her RIGHT mind wants to be with a Mr. Nice-Guy.

I expect that if you are a nice guy, this may be pretty hard for you to swallow

right now. Don’t worry; I’ll give you a moment to take it all in.

Okay, moment’s up.

Let’s get back to reality.

I’m going to try to explain exactly why a quality woman is not going to want to

end up with a Mr. Nice-Guy unless she is completely out of options, hopeless,

and somewhat desperate. If this is the case then I guess it’s safe to say that she maynotbethatmuchofaqualitywomanafterall.Butinanyevent,herearethe

reasons why nice guys are more often than not , rejected, dumped, and cheated

on by the women who ARE in their rightminds:

1.Nice Guys Have Difficulty Doing the RIGHTThing

Yeah, you heard me right. Nice guys have a lot of difficulty doing what is right

in a particular situation . Instead of doing what’s right, nice guys tend to opt for

the much easier route and decide to do what is nice. If you can’t do the right

thingthenthatmeansyoumakedecisionsbasedontryingtokeepeveryoneelse

happyinsteadofensuringthatyou’llbehappywithyourselfifyoulookedinthe

mirror.

A woman who has her act together won’t tolerate this because this will make

you a pushover to her and anyone else. She’ll see you as the kind of guy that is

easily led by others and who is incapable of taking the necessary actions to

makes things right in any given circumstance.

Ifyouareaniceguythatdoesthenicethingasopposedtotherightthing,she’ll

simply see you as being unreliable. She’ll realize that you won’t be able to

handle the conflicts of life and that you won’t be able to act with personal

integrity.Ifyoulackpersonalintegritythatmeansyoulackself-respect.Believe

me, no woman can truly admire or respect a man in the long-run if he cannot

respecthimself.

2.Being Mr. Nice Guy Makes You Seem LessAuthentic

As a man, it’s important to be as authentic as possible in the choices that you

make. It’s simply a part of being a mature man. But nice guys tend to have a

problem with authenticity because they will say “yes” to just about any request

that comes their way.

Nice guys also have a difficult time sifting through the enormous amounts of demands upon their time and resources. Because of this a woman can never be

too sure of what is authentic about him and what isn’t.

In other words, nice guys allow too many unnecessary commitments into their

lives. Their lives are simply filled with too much “fluff”. They deal with other

people’s burdens, other people’s demands, and other people’s plans. Nice guys

placethemselvessecondtoeverythingandeveryoneelse,andthatusuallymakes

them a dumping ground forothers.

You can be assured that no woman is going to want a man who is a dumping

ground for someone else. If you can’t be true to yourself, a woman will simply

feelasifyouwon’tbetruetoher.Shewon’tbeabletofeelsecurewithyou,and

thus her ability to become intimate with you will be extremely limited, if at all

possible.

3.Nice Guys Give Their Power Away to Women

Ifyou’reaniceguy,chancesareyou’vebeengivingyourpowerawaytowomen

andnotevenrealizedit.You’veprobablybeenallowingwomen(mother,sister,

wife,girlfriend,etc.)tomakethemostimportantdecisionsofyourlife,andeven

the not-so important ones as well. You’ve probably developed a kind of

relationship with women whereby you need to have them be happy with you in

orderforyoutobehappywithyourself.Andbelieveme;youdon’twanttobein

this kind ofsituation.

Why?Well,ifawomansensesthatyoueasilygiveyourpowerawaytoher,she

may realize that you may do it for another woman as well. She’ll wonder what

makes her so specialanyway.

Whatshewantsisamanincontrolofhimself,andattimes,heraswell.Giving

your power away to a woman simply means that you give her the permission to

approve of you and that you’ve given her the pleasure of ensuring that your

needs are always met.

This is a no-no.

Onceagain,nowomaninherrightmindwantsamantogivehispowerawayto

her. She will feel forced into the position of being the “man in charge” and she

won’t like it. In fact, she despises it. And even worse, she despises men who

make her feel thatway.

Why Nice Guys Never Win WithWomen

Rememberhow no woman in her right mind would want to be with Mr. Nice

Guy? Well, luckily for Mr. Nice-Guy we have lots of women out there who are

not entirely in their right minds at all. This is actually great for our friend Mr.

Nice-Guybecausehecanstillputotherpeople’sneedsbeforehisandmaintaina

relationship with a woman. But what kind of woman will he attract or even

createexactly?

Well, because of the way nice guys treat people, they tend to attract various

kinds of women that may prey upon their gullible, naive, and overly kind

heartedways.Evenworse,theyendupcreatingwomenlikethisastheybecome

passive in their relationships. They may attract women with all sorts of issues,

everything from emotionally needy women to gold-diggers. You’d be surprised

atthekindsofwomenthatniceguysnaturallyattractwithoutevenrealizingit.

There is an old cliché that suggests that there is someone out there for

everybody.Ibelieveit’skindoftruesinceaniceguyandhismanipulativeways

can find some measure of what he thinks is happiness in a relationship with an

equally manipulative woman that really wants to dominate or control the

relationship. But no man in his right mind would want to be in a relationship

with a damaged and manipulative woman.

Don’t get me wrong here, I understand that no one is perfect and that everyone is

going to have their own issues in a relationship, but that doesn’t mean that you shouldgooutlookingfortheworstofthebunchsinceyoudohavethechoiceto

avoidit.

For example, a nice guy may attract an extremely possessive woman that will

place high demands on his time and resources. Being the nice guy that he is,

he’ll learn to put up with her high demands in order to keep her happy thinking

thathe’sdoingtherightthingwheninfacthe’ssimplydoingthenicething.All

the while he’s actually suffering inside, getting fed up and internally conflicted

withtryingtopleasethiswomanandtryingtokeephimselfsaneandhappy.

Thisguyisessentiallysufferingbecauseofhislackofpersonalboundaries.The

more he overlooks her behavior and accepts it as something that he has to deal

with, the more he will suffer internally and begin to dislike the woman and

worse...himself. If he cannot respect himself, no woman can respect him. The

nice guy may soon learn that without self-respect, he can never findtrue

happiness in a relationship with his idealwoman.

In short, a high-quality woman loves and wants a man that has a high sense of

self-respect . It is a necessity. A low-quality woman on the other hand, onewho

willwasteyourtimeandresources,isawomanthataself-respecting,high-status

man simply cannot develop a meaningful relationship with. The two will be

completelyoutofalignmentwithoneanothersimplybecauseamanwithahigh

levelofself-respectandpersonalboundariesneedsawomanwhoalsosharesthe

samequalities.

Makenomistake;amanwhoconsidershimself‘high-quality’needstobewitha

woman who knows how to respect his personal boundaries. Anything less will

be unfulfilling, unsatisfying, and completely unsustainable tohim.

10 Things You Should Know About the Nice Guy

Before we can go about solving a problem let’s make sure that there actually is one. So before I show you how to go about getting rid of your Mr. Nice-Guy

persona,let’sseeexactlyhowmuchoftheseniceguybehaviorsandbeliefsyou

do actually strugglewith.

Here are ten things you MUST know about the NiceGuy:

1.The nice guy believes that if he is good, giving, and caring, he will get

happiness, love, and fulfillment from others in return. He plays a sort of game

withhimselfthinkingthathedeservestobetreatedacertainwaybecauseofhis

niceness.

2.The nice guy offers to do things for a woman he hardly knows when he

wouldn’t normally do it for just anybody else he knows. He has a strong desire

to gain the approval of women. This can be any woman, especially ones that he

findsappealingandworthyofhisexcessamountsofniceness.

3.Theniceguyavoidsconflictbywithholdinghisopinionsormayevenbecome

agreeablewithawomanwhenhedoesn’tactuallyagree.Thisniceguytendsto

thinkthatinordertokeepthepeaceandmaintaintheloveandadmirationfroma

woman, he must agree with her at all cost. He does this even if it costs him his

self-respect.

4.The nice guy tries to fix and take care of all her problems. He is drawn to

trying to help a woman out in any way that he possible can. This isone of the

mainreasonswhyaniceguytendstoattractalotofdamagedwomen.Hisdesire

to be her Mr. Fix-It makes him susceptible to fall into relationshipswith

problematicwomen.

5.The nice guy has an overpowering need to seek approval from other people.

It’s the kind of approval seeking whereas he may feel guilty for saying “no” to

someoneorhemaybecomeuneasywithhimselfwhenhe’srude,evenifit’sout

ofnecessity. 6.The nice guy tries to hide his perceived flaws and mistakes from others.

Because he wants everyone’s approval and he wants to be seen in the best light

possible, he’s willing to go to extreme lengths to make himself look as flawless

as humanly possible. He’s manipulative to the thirddegree.

7.The nice guy is always looking for the right way to do things as opposed to

just making an attempt at something. The nice guy is afraid of failing and of

course,makingamistakeinfrontofothers.Hedoesn’twanttosteponanyone’s

toes.Becausehedoesn’twanttorocktheboat,he’drathernotdoanythingifhe

doesn’t have all the answers. Sadly, his fear of failure and criticism culminates

in pointless perfectionism and perpetual procrastination. He does nothing, and

accomplishes less thannothing.

8.The nice guy tends to over-analyze everything rather than feel things out for

himself. Sometimes the nice guy can be a bit of a perfectionist, and instead of

just going with the flow and just letting things happen he’d rather have

everythingplannedoutandaccountedforinhisownperfectuniverse.

9.Theniceguyhasdifficultyinmakinghisneedsapriority.Insteadhe’drather

pretendthatwhathewantsisn’tthatimportantandthathe’sbeingateamplayer.

Orhe’llthinkthatbyputtinghisneedsonthebackburnerhe’sbeingonehellof

aguyandthateveryoneshouldalwaysrememberthathe’ssuchagreatguyand

that everyone should likehim.

10.The nice guy is quite often emotionally dependent on his woman. He’s so

dependentonhiswomanforhisownemotionalwell-beingthathe’llgothrough

great lengths to ensure that his woman’s needs are met before his and that he

always gets her approval. Because in the end, he believes that as long as she’s

happy, he’shappy.

Why You Must Kill the Nice Guy Inside When life pushes you around do you push back or lie on your back and take it?

Do you wait around thinking to yourself that people should treat you better and

that things should always go your way, or do you get out of your comfort zone

and expand your own circle of influence? Are you confident enough to go out

and try, and at times fail, to get your needs met or do you sit by the wayside

waiting for the scraps of life and love to be handed out to you? What have you

done lately to expand your capacity for problem solving and handling conflict?

Depending on how honest and humble you are with yourself while answering

those questions, it may be time for you to KILLyour Mr. Nice Guy. Have no

fear; I’m here to help you through the process since I’ve learned how to murder

my own Mr. Nice Guy repeatedly whenever he decides to show up. Yes, it will

make you uncomfortable, but that’s just the point. Don’t worry; I’ll walk you

through it.