IRRESISTIBLE WOMAN

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This is just a starting point, but for the sake of helping you to get your feet wet,

here are a few manly character-building tips:

1.Startanewchallenginghobby,somethingthatyoucanseeyourselfbecoming

reallygoodat.Thiswillbuildyourmanlyconfidenceanditwillalsohelpyouto

developdisciplineasyouhoneyourskillandincreaseyourknowledgeinanew

area.

2.Developanewskilloranoldtalentanduseitasameanstogetaheadinyour

career or even build a business. This will help you to take conscious control of

theself-developmentprocessbyforcingyoutohoneyourmentalfacultiestobe

creative in yourwork.

3.Travel with your woman often and plan unforgettable experiences with her.

Taketheinitiativeandmakeityourbusinesstoensurethatherlifeisfilledwith

romantic fun and adventure. This will help you to develop your organizational

and creative capacities where your woman isinvolved.

4.Set a challenging goal for yourself and commit to attaining it. This will help

you to build character and will show your woman that you are goal-driven and

ambitious.

5.Joinagymorsportsteamorpickupamartialartanddevelopyourbody.This

is vitally important. Why? Because physical strength and martial courage are

two qualities that have been considered absolutely “masculine”, in its purest

essence, throughout human history. And although it may not seem like it,

developing your physical strength and increasing your capacity for martial

courage also aids your character development. Pursuing such activities greatly

increases your own manly confidence while at the same time, making you far

morephysicallyattractivetowomenonabiologicalandprimallevel.Itwillalso

help you to develop self-discipline and mastery, as becoming competent in any

kind of weight training, sports, or martial arts will require great amounts of

effort andpersistence.

6.Readmorebooksthatwillpropelyouforwardinlife.Trytogetmorereading

done in the year. Any book that will aid in your personal development (likethis

one) will help you to build a stronger character by sharpening your mental

faculties and your ability to solveproblems.

7.Find some friends that will help you excel in life. Join a social club where

men gather and find ways to add value to the gathering and to yourcommunity.

This will help you to grow in character as you are forced to learn how to relate

better with other men in order to get your needs met and the needsof others by

workingtogether.

8.Be creative in your love life and treat your woman as if she were the most

important person on earth (isn’t she?). Come up with fun and creative ways to

show your affection on an on-going basis. This will help you to develop the

virtuesofloveandgratitude,asthemoreyoupouryourselfintotherelationship,

the greater rewards you willreap.

9.Take charge of situations on your job or at home. Be proactive. Offer up

suggestions to solve conflicts, be the first one to make a move, and take more

initiative. Learn to become a masterful decision-maker. This will help you to

develop the masterful quality of personal initiative. A trait that is common in

ALL leaders in every walk oflife.

10.Go above and beyond the call of duty in your love life and develop your

manly resourcefulness in your relationship. Learn what really makes your

woman tick and ensure that her needs are met even before she realizes she had

one. This will help you to develop the habit of going the extra mile and over

delivering on your promises andcommitments.

Those suggestions should be more than enough to help get you started.

Even though they’re all pretty useful suggestions, you’ve got to do the work.

Start with something and commit to seeing it through. Take action now, and

challenge yourself. This is the only way to build the strong character that you

want and the masculine qualities that the woman of your dreams will need in

order to submit to your leadership. Remember, cultivating a strong, masculine

character is important for any man who desires greater success and relationship

happiness.

When a man goes about his life consciously building his character and making

theworldaroundhimabetterplace,hemakeshimselfmoreusefultoothers.As

his intrinsic value enlarges, so does his social significance. Such a man will

eventuallybeseenaspossessinghighsexualvaluetowomen; thus transforming himself into an irresistible catch to the woman he desires or an irreplaceable

lover to the woman he has already committed to.

The Key to Her Heart: Earning and Keeping Trust

A woman can only love and respect you as a man as far as she can trust being

with you. It’s as simple as that my friend. Believe me, it’s impossible to truly

loveandappreciateyourwomanandgethertodothesameifshecannotputher

trust inyou.

Above all else, she needs security from you.

This is why women have the habit of testing men, day in and day out. It is a

subconscious habit that is built into their psyche. In my book, What Women

Want When They Test Men, I reveal to guys the “darker” side of female

behavior and how women test men in order to acquire greater levels of

authenticity and intimacy from men. In the book, I explain that for a woman,

testingamanisessentialtohersurvivalbecauseitistheonlywayforhertogain

certaintyofwhatherexperiencewithamanmightbeinthefuture.

Therefore, when it comes to earning and keeping her trust, because of this need

for certainty, a woman will continue to test a man throughout his life to ensure

that she can rely on him during the bad times and even the good times as well.

Now, you should keep in mind that these tests aren’t really meant to cause you

any unwanted stress or to bring drama in your life. However, they are meant to

keepyouonyourtoesandto“coerce”youintobeingabettermanoratleastinto

being aman , period. For a woman, testing you will reveal to her the difference

betweenwhoyousayyouareandwhatyou’rereallymadeof.

Testing you allows her unfiltered access to the true nature of your character, as

she assesses the areas in which you lack congruence.

At first, it may be easy for you to get by on a charming personality alone. But underasmartwoman’stesting,anyfaçadeyoumightbetryingtopresenttoher

won’t hold up over time. You can be as charming and as dashing as you want,

but in the long-run your true character will reveal itself. More experienced

women are fully aware of this, and they’ll keep testing you until the “real”,

authentic you finally presentshimself.

Her Experience with You

What a woman wants to be sure of more than anything is her experience with

you. This goes beyond her physical senses in that she wants to feel secure with

you in mind, body, and soul. She wants to know how you’ll deal with her

emotional nature and she wants to know if she can rely on you when the going

gets tough.

What she really wants is a feeling of security, knowing that no matter what life

throws her way you’ll be there as a source of strength and encouragement. She

wantstofeelsecureinyourabilitytoweatherthestormsoflife.

Thereasonforthisisbecauseawomanisnaturallyhardwiredtoseekoutpower

andsecurityfromamaninordertosurvive,asendingupwithaweak,wavering,

orpredatorymancangreatlyjeopardizeherexistence.Attimesofcourse,you’ll

comeacrossthosewomenwhotakethis“needforcertainty”totheextreme,but

it’squitenaturalforawomantowantacertainlevelofsecurity.

This is why an intelligent, high-quality woman will not only be highly attracted

toamanwithastrongcharacter,butshe’llbecomehighlyinvestedinamanwho

has ambition and drive. Without this certainty, a woman will not be attracted to

you, or if she finds out that you’re incapable of making her feel secure over the

long-term, she cannot remain attracted toyou.

This is simply her survival instinct at work within her. She can’t control it.

Yeah I know; it’s tough being a guy. But it’s all about embracing the challenge, my friend. This is exactly the kind of attitude that a woman will find highly

attractiveanddesirableinyou,asitisyourstrengthofcharacterandyourability

to deal with conflict that will determine just how much she can trust you, and

thereforegiveherselftoyouthroughhersubmissiontoyourloveandleadership.

The safer a woman feels with you, the more she will open up to you. And she

will open up to you in mind, body, and soul while being more than willing to

follow your lead as long as she can place her complete confidence in you.

Be Decisive, Handle Conflict, and Stay Calm

Okay, so you’ve probably realized about now that a man’s character is themost

important factor in determining how much a good woman will love, trust, and

respect him. It’s the key component in getting a woman to have faith in your

brand of love andleadership.

Don’t get me wrong, an attractive personality does count for a lot, but it’s more

like the icing on the cake. In other words, personality is a great way to attract

and entice a woman, but it’s your character that will make her trust and respect

your leadership, and make her desire everything that you have to offer.

Assuming you want this one of a kind woman in your life for a long time to

come, your character is the most important thing that will determine herstaying

power.

Now, here’s my number one tip for developing the kind of character that a

woman finds overwhelmingly desirable:

Become secure in your ability to make intelligent decisions in the face of

conflict, and become a master at handling your emotions.

Here’s the thing, it’s impossible for a woman, or anyone for that matter, to put

theirtrustinyouinanysituationifyoucannottrustyourself.Asamatteroffact,

womenhaveaninnateabilitytopickupwhenamanisbeingindecisive,and theycansmellalackofconfidenceonamanasifitwererottingflesh.

You don’t want her to smell rotting flesh. Doyou?

No, you don’t.

The more control you exert over yourself, especially in times of conflict, the

more attractive and desirable you will be to a woman. This applies the same

whether you’re in a serious relationship or single.

The best part about this is that she cannot control it. A woman has no control

overherability(orinability)tofeelasenseofattractionoradmirationforyouif

you become a master at handling conflict and managing your emotions. She’ll

see you as a source of strength, and it will make it much easier for her to place

her trust and security inyou.

The Unforgivable Sin That Can Ruin Everything: Your

Own Insecurities in Being with Her

Why is it that a woman, especially a good woman, cannot stand an indecisive

man? Why is it that a man who displays a lack of confidence is a complete turn

off to her? How is it that an anxious and timid man will literally make awoman

cringe and run in the opposite direction? And why does a man who lacks

ambition have zero chance with a greatwoman?

These are all valid questions my friend, so I’ll tell you.

It’s because all these things show that such a man is insecure with himself and

his ability to make decisions, to commit to anything, and to lead her. Andguess

what? She’s been biologically designed by her Creator to avoid these kinds of

men.She must learn to avoid these kinds of men simply because if she and her

offspring are to survive it is not in her best interest to date and mate with these

imposters. Insecurityinallofitsvariousformswillcauseawomantobecomeunsureabout

you. If she becomes unsure about your ability to lead, love, and take care of her

emotionally and physically, she will eventually lose the respect and desire she

has for you. It’s not that she doesn’t want to trust you; she has no choice in the

way she feels . It’s how she was designed bynature.

How Nature Designed Her

The confident guy gets the girl because she needs security.

The financially successful guy gets the girl because she needs security.

The physically fit and handsome guy gets the girl because she needs security in

knowing that her offspring will be strongand healthy.

The decisive and determined guy gets the girl because she needs security in

knowing that he can lead.

In other words, she’s designed to seek out the kind of man she can place her

confidence in. And the only way she’s going to place her confidence in youand

continue to do so will be based on your ability to deal with your inner conflicts

andinsecuritiesasaman.Thisiswhyit’ssoimportantforahigh-qualitywoman

tofindamanwhohasasetofmoralsandprinciplesthathefollowsdiligently.

Ifamanhasasetofidealsthatheholdsmoreimportantthananythingelseinhis

life, his decision-making will be based on something that is essentially

unchangeable and that cannot be easily corrupted or distorted. The basis for his

decision-making and therefore his actions are set in stone. A great woman will

give her all to a man that has a concrete system of ethics that he follows

religiously.

In short, the ideals and values you live your life by will help you to deal with

your inner conflicts and insecurities because your decision-making won’t be

guided by how you feel at the moment .

This is very important here.

A woman knows, perhaps on a subconscious level, that she is an irrational

creature. She knows that most of the time her emotions will get the best of her,

and that she makes decisions based mainly on how she feels at that very

moment.