Rule 7-8
1188 Words
Rule 7 • Hear out your partner first and then decide what to do.
Hear out your partner first and then decide what to do. ○ Don't jump on conclusion before hearing whole explanation, let your partner say it out, either it be anger, happiness, sad, or sulking let it out and then support
Sometimes when you start talking And when your partner is saying something you don't let them finish. Before they finish you just try to put in your Input Maybe you're impatient. Maybe you also want to see something. Maybe you're not interested in what they are saying. It can be any of The things But when you are in a real serious relationship Things really take a ton. Because now It's long. It's a marathon. Now even your partner won't ignore these things.
Once the things get serious Even they would want that whatever the top. Whatever they talk should be taken seriously.
But at least should be heard too seriously. And it is really important to make your partner's realize that you are. Hearing them listening to them and not just nodding your head or saying yes to everything they ask.
Maybe you are a multi task or you can hear and do other stuff as well at the same time, but Maybe your partner isn't.
And sometimes maybe your partner is talking chili serious, and at that time if you are doing something else or if you don't pay attention to it. It really hurts. I create is not possible to be. I agree. It is not possible to be a lot all the time, but I'm sure it's not a lot to ask. I'm sure you get that vibe. Of what your partner wants to talk?
It's a funny thing in your head in your head just assumes and your head just suggested. Okay, there's something going to come up right now. It can be good or bad but you get that vibe. When your partner does a mistake?
It's okay make them sit. If you can gulp the mistake. First gulp it second sit down. And think about What your partner has done As a third person Think about Did you do something or did you not do something? That's the reason your partner did a mistake? And even when Such things happen and you're not able to still figure out. Just distract yourself go for a walk and go to meet your friends or your family. If you play a sport go and play a sport I know it would be distracting For a while just let that out Once you are normal you come back Since you have heard everything whatever your partner had to say make them sleep next to you Sit next to you. Make a logical practical decision mutually. And if it's not such a big mistake, just give them a hug. It's okay to make mistakes. It is really okay to make mistakes because that's when everyone grows. Support them during their mistakes
Rule 8 Let past be in past
Let past be in past and never compare with your present or future
When you start liking someone New that's the time. You start worrying about your future. Because it's a new start and if you have had a rough patch before you started this then I'm sure it's gonna those memories are going to Come back.
And when those memories come back, it is difficult. Sometimes to realize that you are not with the same person. This is a different person with a different set of ideas Hobbies likings different set of Perspective in which Your partner chooses or sees the world.
Sometimes one forgets The line between the past and the present it's a very thin line when it comes to comparing in a good way or a bad way. Sometimes your partner does something for you in a very
Good way or he tries to do something for you with a lot of effort, but then you don't realize it or appreciated because it is not. A very big deal for you, or maybe someone has done it for you in the past, but just because someone is doing it for you again in the present. The value of that thing. Or that effort is a lot more now because your partner may be no knowing about this. But still even after knowing your partner tries to put an effort to Make you smile. Or just to see you happy. And maybe your partner is going way out of their comfort zone to make you Comfortable with them make you smile with them. Sometimes in an argument One forgets this line And then starts Let's the anger take control of this.
And all those things what happened in the past comes back like okay even He or she did it. And now even you're doing it that's that's a very hurtful statement for your current partner because now your partner knows that you're comparing. And nobody wants to get compared and nobody should be compared because everyone. Is different in their own ways in their own set of ideas in their own world.
I would suggest.
You have to unlearn things. So like you go to a new. Society Maybe there are a lot of things which you might be doing in your old society. And when you come to a new Society, you will get to know that okay, these are the things which happen here. And just so that you don't hurt the people around. Sometimes you have to unlearn some things for the betterment to live happily in this society. And that's what happened to relationships as well when you come out of a relationship and then after a while once you are ready for a relationship And at those times sometimes or most of the times one has to forget. The things or the memories or Every small detail. In a peculiar way
Once that unlearning thing is done. Then you can always learn new things about the new person your new partner because Until and unless there is left to work on the plate. Until and unless there is left over on the plate there cannot be new space. To eat Or to even enjoy the flavor of the new dish. So always Complete the less left over And either that is up to you if you want to throw it all you want to eat it. Either way, it's going to pop out again. Either you can throw it in the garbage. Or have it. Once that is done always clean the plate. Once that cleaning is done that refreshment that piece is done. Everything is new and ready to get served on your plate. Then you can always go to the counter. And ask for something new now or look for something new to have or spend your time with.
Sometimes we get so insecure that we fail to see the line between our partners life of past and present. Your partner choose you and that is the ultimate decision taken by them. So respect it and accept it
- Writer
