Rule 4-5-6
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Rule 4 • Give time as much as you can
Give time as much as you can only way to make your partner feel you are there always, after a time distance will fade away
Sometimes in relations One of the other partner gets busy. In the work in their life or Maybe something important coming up something important meeting some important event or function. Something And during those times. One of the partners Is really seeking attention, but then at such times it's very difficult. But if the partner who is busy acknowledges, it realizes it that ok the partner requires attention. And Later on. Compensates for it
Then It makes the other partner really happy. During the time when one was busy. The main time for The other partners And sometimes these small things really small things makes a lot of difference. In our daily lives we forget.
To give importance The words Or spend as much time as you can but Once we have a normal schedule a system. Out of that, maybe once a while. It's okay to go off the schedule of the system and spend some time together.
And do something something which Your partner's likes.
Maybe to just make memorable day slowly slowly being memorable days are like poles in a necklace one day there will be so many polls that the necklace would look really beautiful. And that's what counts at the end of the day.
Rule 5 • During fights if you disconnect call, wait for sometime and call back.
During fights if you disconnect call, wait for sometime and call back. Never leave the conversation in middle when far
Not only on call. But in person as well.
When two people live together. Or when they are together. The mode of communication Options There are a lot of options to communicate. Sometimes they just communicate through w******p. Sometimes f*******: i********: sharing memes feeds pictures tags. And sometimes Something else maybe meals. And email or anything?
And once you start living with the other person Sometimes you forget that he or she is a different person and not the person. Whom you Have dreamt of or not the person whom you want to be. Sometimes the level of expectations you setting your mind. Or the things how you want from the other person or not from the other person but in general things have you want It becomes very Harsh form But not too. I just talked to the things how you want because or maybe they have lived their whole lives like that. And now you're asking them to change that's a bit much to ask.
So during such times when there are fights. And this too And is the level and intensity of the fight goes too high? Then it's better to just Go for a walk or just Eat something Just not see each other for a while and just be with yourself for a while. For a while can be 5 minutes. Fifteen minutes One hour Two hours, which can be anything. But during that time when you are Alone with yourself Try to think from the other person's perspective. I'm sure he or she will be right. And it's not that you will be wrong. It's just it would be difficult for both of you to understand that both of you're right. And if both of your right then who is wrong. Sometimes nobody is wrong. Sometimes it's just a situation that's wrong. And you know, you have to hold hands at that time and be patient and okay. Let's see how the things go and just don't leave things. That's it So if you ever get in a fight. Don't go for a very long time.
Don't just go away for a very long time just After a few minutes, so maybe half an hour come back and talk don't talk about the fight talk about the fight maybe after a few hours, but not at that time. Just talk about something else. Let things get sorted and settled in both of your minds.
Once it's settled in your mind since then you can clearly see transparently. And then you both can decide what to do about it, but never discuss anything after fight. Just discuss about something else maybe food. Maybe walk maybe a movie maybe something else.
Only suggestion I would give is Sometimes even in fights. Just try to look at the other person in their eyes. And just
Be there in a moment sometimes just Not talking and just coming close and holding hand might help. Sometimes a hug might help a lot.
Rule 6 • Try to understand each other's situations and accept it.
Try to understand each other's situations and accept it. ○ Past, ex, future, likes, dislikes
When you first meet a person. You start liking them. Or let's say when you start liking Those whom you met.
Then things go roller coasters in your mind. Sometimes
After spending a while with them. You get to know things about you get to know about their past about their past relationships about the past careers.
Maybe about the future plans. About what you used to like about what they like right now. That might be some cases sometimes in situations where it turns out that partner liked. Something a lot before which you would want to try but now Your partner doesn't like it. So these small bumpers These small bumpers. They really create. Some issues some grudges inside subconsciously. Sometimes it's easier to accept sometimes it does not.
Especially in the times when you get to know about the past relationships and you get to know that they are still in contact with them. That creates a lot of Stone in your heart in your mind you get really insecure possessive at the same time. You get jealous But It's fine. When You Face such situations.
Just try and think one thing.
Is that an individual who deserves to live? Independently Yes. Everyone has a right to live their life individually individually. Second Ask yourself. Do I trust this person? Whatever he or she has told you. Can you trust them if the answer is yes. And I'm sure you let it go. But if the answer is not that you can't Well sometimes. In such decisions you need time. You need time to decide. You need patience to guide you that how how much the other person wants you how much the other person needs you how much the other person she really likes you and wants to be with you and we'll do. A lot of For you, or maybe he or she is doing a lot of things for you. So always Or maybe sometime. Take a leap of faith. I know it's too much to ask. Too much to ask But sometimes not all the races are won. In 10 seconds
Some races are marathons, which you have to go and go and go and go and let the strength of the relationship.
Let the strength of the relationship Take the turn. And Guide the path
At the end of the day you one suggestion.
Always think of the other person as an other individual.
You can think of them as a friend or anything anything but always remember that they have their own life.
And it is their choice to live it the way they want to. It is always a choice.
One should never push or force them. To Except how You want them to live
It can be two guarding the past relationships. It can be regarding .It can be regarding their future likes plans or anything
Always give that freedom and always being that freedom.
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