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WHAT DOES TRUST MEAN?

There have been many times I have wondered if I would be able to trust you. so everyone has had experiences that have made them question things u do or things u say. maybe u don't care about the other persons reactions. You should understand that people may be hurt or upset at the things u do. If something you did is bothering me then it should bother u. I shouldn't have to tell you what it is you should know. Dont be a jerk and say it's not important because if it bothers me or u then it's definitely something that needs to be addressed. you may not want to but it's ur job to fix it. If you can sit there and pretend it's not a mistake that is ur fault then maybe u should rethink some of the things u say or do. Maybe some things may be small or ridiculous to you but regardless you need to show that you care and that is all that matters.

Have u ever had a feeling at the pit of ur stomach like something doesn't seem right or maybe a bad feeling. well normally when u have the feeling it's usually a good idea to listen to that. Trust in a romantic relationship involves having confidence in your partner's reliability, honesty, and integrity. It means believing that your partner will do what they say they will do, and that they have your best interests at heart. When trust is present in a relationship, it creates a sense of safety and security.As I have been writing about dishonesty and how to overcome it, I have been thinking about the other side of this topic. It became apparent to me that to be able to learn how to stop lying, a person would need to know what truth is, as well as what trust is. Because even though you have stopped lying for a time, the ultimate goal is usually to rebuild trust and develop connections within a relationship.

To rebuild trust, you need to know what trust is. Without understanding what trust is and what it is not, you might find it hard to develop trust, thus causing stress in the relationship. Any stress can cause us to revert to old, unhelpful behaviors. I am going to help you figure out what trust is today. I want you to know a good definition of trust, some examples of trust, and some nuances to trust. Ultimately, trust is the ability to have complete faith in someone or something that you want to rely on.

How do you define trust?

Different dictionary definitions are on the internet, whether through dictionary.com or MerriamWebster.com. The definitions of trust we find are somewhat broad. So let’s just take our time to sift through them to better understand what trust is.

Trust is a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. Trust could also be assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something.

What does it mean to have a firm belief?

Let’s stop there and talk about this definition. A firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. When you hear the words “a firm belief,” the meaning says that you are holding strongly to the idea that this thing we are believing in is reliable, truthful, and has the ability we need, or possibly the strength we need. I like that it says firm belief because it emphasizes that we are unwavering in this belief we are putting our faith in.

Let’s move forward to what other aspects of trust we can find.

Trust can be attributed to someone or something that we place our confidence in. It can mean dependence on something in the present or the future. Another variation of trust seems to say that we have hope in something. Yet, another form of trust is when you place faith or confidence in something or someone.Another interesting tidbit about trust is that you can have partial trust in something or someone. You can have trust in one area and not in another, especially in relationships. I can trust a person to hand me tools, but maybe I can’t trust them to hold onto $100 for me. It’s less likely we trust people with our money as opposed to other things.

I struggle with trusting people to babysit my children. I struggle with trusting our school systems, although I trust many of the teachers that work in the school systems that I know. You can even trust something a little, but maybe not to the full extent. These are nuances.

When it comes to God sometimes we trust God, but we do not fully. We may say we do but we only do to an extent. I want to show you that trust is more complicated than we think it is. We are talking about absolute 100% firm belief versus something that may be a little more simple and clear cut and not in the gray area. Unfortunately, in most relationships, what we trust and don’t trust about people can get very gray.

So I want you to understand what trust is and accept that you do trust some things and not other things. That’s a fact and it’s NORMAL.

How does truth factor into trust?

To know what to trust, you need to know the truth. Truth is something that is absolute fact and never will not be fact. It doesn’t change. A fact is something that is a fact now but may not be a fact later. Truth is absolute. Again, it does not change. We can count on the truth and TRUST it. We can’t always trust facts.

I think it is important to make a distinction and understand truth because when we are trying to build trust, the truth can help us build a solid foundation. It is hard to trust something if you don’t know some amount of what is true. Work to find out what is true, but keep it simple. Sometimes we can work too hard. I am not encouraging you to dig all through your spouse’s history or phone. I am just encouraging you to establish a few things you can stand firm on.

Conclusion

I like word studies. I like to figure out what I am dealing with when I’m working on something. It’s so helpful and provides more context to a situation that we are trying to better understand. If you are having trust issues in your relationship. It helps to understand what is trust and what is not trust. It’s hard to rebuild trust if you don’t understand what trust looks like or whether I do or don’t trust something. I’ve had many clients come in and sit down and say I don’t know if I trust my partner AT ALL. It helps to define what you can and cannot trust.

So today I want you to sit down and write down what you fear, what your anxieties are, and what you can and can’t trust. Be honest with yourself and you will find the truth about what you trust and can stand on those things while you rebuild trust in other areas.