A Love like No Other!

ARE WE DRIFTING APART?

let's get to the point, I assume if ur reading this then u have came across this concern!

your husband spends too much time on the computer, you can try talking to him about it and consider seeking counseling. Talk to him

Express how his phone usage makes you feel. For example, you could say, "I feel hurt and disconnected when we're both on our phones during dinner". Don't make it personal.

Consider whether he might be trying to fill a void or distract himself from something.

Consider counseling If he denies that anything is wrong, you might need to work with a counselor to decide what to do next.

Counseling can help improve your relationship and communication. Consider your relationship

Think about whether he's the right person for you. Consider whether you have enough alone time and space for your own interests. Relationship experts recommend spending 70% of your time together and 30% apartI never thought that I would have to share my time with my husband with a piece of technology. To me, it’s not just a computer with internet that is taking up my husband’s time, it is what comes with it. My husband’s eyes are always on his computer or his smart phone. Our conversations seem to be limited because my husband always seems preoccupied.

Speaking to Strangers

Along with the internet, comes random people from all over the world that my husband shares his life with.

To me, they are complete strangers, but to my husband, they are just like they spend every second with my husband. He thinks that these people that he never met before, know him better than most people.

My husband doesn’t realize that his relationships with these strangers, are taking time from us working on our relationship. It hurts me.My Husband Spends Too Much Time On The Internet

Every time I speak to my husband about limiting his internet, he agrees for that hour and then next thing I know he is back on the internet. The chat alerts are going off like crazy. I never thought a tiny ping sound would make me so mad. I would get jealous that these people that my husband gives so much of his time to would be able to grab my husband’s attention, and me, the wife, can’t grab his attention from being right in front of him.

Since speaking to my husband about his time on the internet didn’t seem to help me at all, I would start to be snappy for the most ridiculous reasons. My frustration level was through the roof, and I needed a way for this to be stopped. I also didn’t want the way to get my husband’s attention back to be fighting with him for tiny reasons. I wanted so much for everything to be normal, I just didn’t know how to go about it.

Finally, I realized that fighting with my husband was not getting anywhere. I was so upset that my husband spends too much time on the internet. I needed to fix something, and fix my marriage quickly.

I hesitantly suggested to my husband that maybe we should seek counseling. To my surprise, my husband agreed. Together, we came across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. Through this program, we learned about healthy communication and how to separate the internet from our daily lives. I’m so happy to not have to share my husband anymore! I keep asking that of myself, every single day. Are we really drifting apart? Or, are we just growing?

I frequently feel as though the spark is gone, yet I’ve read or heard from others that this is pretty normal for long-term relationships.

However, this is different for me. It’s common to lose a spark, but this doesn’t feel right.

We’re getting farther apart. Have you not seen the distance that has grown between us over the last few months? We are gradually losing communication. We had serious conversations before bed virtually every night, and I miss it. Until we parted ways because of an unpleasant circumstance we found ourselves in, we were open to one another. But is this enough of a reason to change? We got back together, but we’re slowly drifting apart. We began to do things we dislike, yet we continue to talk about it. Unfortunately, we continue to do some of those, despite the fact that we have already said that we despise that particular thing. Isn’t it funny how the old us will always listen to and address problems with patience and gentleness?

Our relationship is filled with rage and chaos, as well as tenderness and affection. But, every time we dispute over a tiny nuisance, why does it feel so wrong to address the matter without raising our voices and becoming furious at each other? Instead of fighting the problem, we battle with one other rather than working together to solve it.

How long will things remain this way? Should we talk about it or simply leave it alone?

Relationships ought to grow, but if this is how it’s supposed to work out, I’ll be pleased to be a bonsai — bonsai are supposed to keep things from growing to their full size.

I may come across as selfish, but I don’t want this growth. I want us to grow individually while being together.

I want us to continue embracing one another while we pursue our goals. Since you are also part of all of my achievements, I am grateful to share them with you. I want us to stay by each other’s sides and work on our futures — both for ourselves and together.

She wants to picture herself with the man she loves when she is 14. She also wants to watch her partner fulfill his ambitions while she is by his side. She wants to stay by his side until their hair is white, their skin is wrinkled, and it’s her final breath, with her last word being his name.

“Gusto kong makita kang masaya kasama ako, aking marino.” A quiet chamber filled with her thoughts alone.

“Are we really fine and happy when we are not together physically, or are we just fine and happy when we are together physically?” enters my mind every time you leave my house and every time I leave yours when we visit. And that keeps repeating itself in my head. I was unable to give an honest response.

We have been so far off. We simply let most of the problems we had go unspoken, never having the opportunity to talk about them. We both understand the need of taking time for ourselves as individuals, but I hope we remember each other as well. Although we each have our own priorities in life, I hope that this won’t be something that results in our breakup. As we develop as individuals; I hope we don’t outgrow our relationship. In the midst, I hope we won’t lose each other. I’m hoping that we won’t lose each other after we reach what we desire.

We’ve so drawn to our own.

She continues to focus on her studies without noticing that her lover is gradually moving away from her. She has been captivated and drawn to her own. Her lover is already drawn on his own when she realizes it. However, since her actions were the cause of everything, she can’t really hold him blameless. She had no idea till he turned into the person she never imagined he’d become. They quickly lost communication about how they felt, preferring to keep it inside themselves until it filled up and formed a void. She makes an effort to talk to him about it, but it wasn’t the same as before, and she bears responsibility for it. He used to be quite forthright and open about how he felt. But as time passed on, it abruptly changed. He went from outlining his views and emotions to saying, “Okay lang ako, I promise,” without giving an adequate explanation.

I continue to make an effort to open topics, but each time I do, this occurs —

Hey, love. Do you hear me?” I said. I knew you weren’t paying attention to my yaps, though, because you didn’t answer. So I just keep silent and do my thing.

And that’s when I realized we were drifting away, and I couldn’t help but cry silently in my room. I was so afraid of losing you that I didn’t realize how crucial my actions were in causing us to change. I couldn’t blame you for this. Even if you keep pushing me away whenever we fight, I will always pull myself back in. I hope you do the same; I did not intend to avoid the subject of conflict. I really wanted to talk about it, but I was afraid you wouldn’t understand my point of view, and I was totally misunderstanding it.

I keep hoping that we will change for the better. You always tell me that I am already the best, and I did the same to you. Indeed, we are. However, there are still certain issues that need to be addressed and resolved. I’m hoping we can communicate openly once more. I’m hoping we can communicate with one other once more. I’m hoping we’ll ignite the flame we once had.

Yes, we are growing and drifting away. However, we must not continue to drift apart. Let’s grow for ourselves and for each other.

I have more than enough reasons for staying with you. The fact that it’s you is among the causes. I want to be with you throughout my life. Not even death can separate us. My soul is bound to you, and it will always find its way to you in all places, times, and lifetimes.

On the beach, the waves push and pull exactly like we do. However, I will always draw you back to me whenever you push yourself away. I’ll hold your hands forever.

So, no. I will not let us drift apart. I will always choose to stay and fix every inconvenience that we face. No, I’ll never let you go.