One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the god of even the most suspicious people once you're selective honesty opens a hole in their armour you can deceive and manipulate them at will a timely gift a trojan horse will serve the same purpose DSS of deception is destruction distracting the people you want to deceive gives you the time and space to do something they won't notice and act of kindness generosity or honesty is the most powerful form of destruction because it disturbs other people suspicions it turns them into children eagerly lapping up any kind of action affectionate gesture in ancient China this was called giving people before you take the giving makes it hard for the other person to notice the taken it is a device which with infinite practical uses brazenly taking something from someone is dangerous even for the powerful the victim we plot revenge it is also dangerous simply to ask for what you need no matter how politely unless the other person sees some game for themselves they may come to resent your neediness learn to give before you take it something to ground takes the bite out of a feature request or simply create a distraction and giving can take many forms and actually gives a general start a kind favour and honest admission whatever it takes selective honesty is best employee on your first encounter with someone we are all creatures of habit and our first impressions last a long time if someone believes your honest at the start of your relationship it takes a lot to convince them otherwise this gives you room to maneuver a single act of honesty is often not enough what is acquired is a reputation for honesty built on a series of Act but this can be quiet in consequential once this reputation is established as with first impressions it is hard to shake in ancient China Duke wu of Cheng decided it was time to take over the increasingly powerful kingdom of Hu telling no one of his plan he married his daughter to Hu ruler had expected one of his ministers replied Hu should is a sister state now why do you suggest invading her he had the minister is located for his impolitic remark the ruler of Hu heard about this and considering other tokens of Wu Hu and took over the country never to relinquish ithonesty is one of the best ways to disarm the wailing but it is not the only one any kind of noble apparently selfless act when you sell perhaps the best sword Art do is one of generosity few people can resist a gift even from the most adding enemy which is why it is often the perfect way to the some people a gift brings out the child in US instantly knowing our defences although we have stoneview other people's action in the most cynical light we really see the massive alien element of a gift which quite often hides material motives the gift is the perfect object in which to hide a disincentive move this tactic must be practiced with caution if people see through it they are disappointed feelings of gratitude and warmth will become the most violent hatred and distrust unless you can make the gesture seem sincere and heartfelt do not play with fire the Trojan horse your jewelry is hidden inside a magnificent gift that proved irresistible to your opponent the walls open once inside wreak havoc when Duke Hsien of chin was about to raid Yu he presented to them a Jade and a team of horses when Earl Chih was about to raid ch ou Yu you presented to them ground chariots hence the saying when you are about to take you should give that's just the philosophy of it