Chapter Eight “To love or to be loved” As I began the long drive back to New York, I reflected on the past years of my life and all my wives. I thought about my marriage to Debra. That was the first mistake I made. The cause of that failed marriage was our immaturity since neither of us was ready for the responsibility of marriage. *** My marriage to Kathy was based on dishonesty. There was not only the history of cheating, but I practiced the sin of omission concerning my vasectomy, and of course her violent reaction to it. That doomed our relationship. *** Then there was beautiful Anne. I loved her, I thought. I’m sure that marriage would have gone the course. But I loved her more than she loved me. And of course, she wanted me to share her with Bernie. *** When I met Boadicea, I

