Let's Do Better Ghouls! (Extra Readings: Helpful tips on self improvement.)

Incompetent people.

I’ve said this before that I will die on the hill for my husband. I have a very high expectation of what it truly means to be a good wife to your husband.

Just because you got married in a wedding dress and spread your legs for him, it doesn’t make you a better wife.

It’s your actions that speaks louder than words. It’s about how you nurture your relationship, and how you care for your relationship. It’s the way you conduct yourself around not just your husband but all other couples around you.

I recently got a phone call from my father. He told me everything. I am going no contact with my grandmother. I will not disclose names of individuals with all due respect to privacy. It’s about an old woman with very bad habits. I don’t give a s**t about your age. Your actions are not excusable. She doesn’t take good care of her husband, refuse to cook or clean, always complaining, constantly post political agendas on social media 24/7, always obsess with Fox News, putting her shopping impulses first before her husband, dining out, traveling, hoarding problems, and treats him like s**t behind closed doors. Husband had to work 12 - 16 hours a day to pay all of the bills and clean up all of her financial mess. He had to come home to a nightmare of a neglectful home. He gave her everything then she takes and takes. He had to eat canned food because the kitchen is contaminated with pests and all the other filth. She couldn’t even cook him a nice hot meal on a clean dish or give him a clean safe space. She allowed too many financial inconveniences in her life with crazy shop hoarding and dumped all of her weaponize incompetences onto her husband. She treated him like a cash cow for like forty years of the marriage. She barely worked for all of her life which that doesn’t surprise me. All of the sudden, he ended up in the hospital with a severe heart condition in the ICU due to years of stress and dangerous conditions that she put him through in this mad house of her hoarding problems. While he was struggling in his hospital bed, she threw an adult tantrum fit, destroyed his s**t at home, stole money out of the savings account, and abandoned him at the hospital. She took his car to go traveling to party.

From my experience, she is not someone to look up to. If she were to read this, I hope there is shame inside of you. For your nasty behaviors and the way that you conducted yourself as a wife. Whether if you want to believe that it’s just rage bait or not, this is REAL life s**t that is putting a mental and physical impact on your husband and you are f*****g him up. Some of you are disgusting f*****g human beings for not being there for them at their worst through life or death situations.

Ladies, your husband does not deserve to be in a place where he feels unsafe or not wanted. Value your husband’s words and your vows while you still can because they may not always be there to speak them.

Your biggest life regret will be abandoning a good man because you couldn’t handle being there for him at his lows until it’s too late.

One day, you will end up crying on his f*****g grave, “I am sorry for leaving you. You were right about everything. I should’ve listened to you. I lost a good man because I was only hyper focused on the highs and on myself.”

UPDATE:

Rehash back in the year of 2018 of the young couple of a 20 year old autistic woman and 18 year old man:

His parents: "You don't put your significant other first at least few hours a day while she’s working herself to death! Do you call that a husband?! Do you call yourself a man?! Spouses are number one top priority here on call!"

~ Remember her formal partner left her with his parents everyday while he only thinks about drugs, pornagraphy, entertaining other women, going out to parties with his friends, constantly used his wife as a wallet, and impulsive shopping for expensive apparel and video games. He got scolded by his father. This has left families utterly disappointed and embarrassed. He lacked the ability to hold any jobs or support the vulnerable woman. While he dressed up all flashy, he tried to go to the human service department to apply for financial assistance but his parents made it clear that they won't provide any support due to the outcome that his morals proves very disgusting. There were not legally married, no joint account, no proof of medical disability information, or shared taxes. He was not eligible for any credit loans or financial assistance. It became a loss on him, he seeks validation from his friends and other women in public places. Spent all nights playing video games, going out to parties, and never returned home for 72 hours until he came home hung over with hickies on his neck and reeked like weed and perfume. His parents completely lost their temper. His behavior showed no effort of being a responsible future husband. He didn't even show affection or paid any attention to his significant other. At this point, his parents found out that he's been cheating on her by entertaining women on the internet and sleeping with female strangers while he was partying with his friends every night and not returning home to his significant other. Parents disapproved of his behaviors. He always put on a show when he's out with his friends pretending that everything is all cool, yet his behaviors grew severely reckless that pushed his parents to their limits. They kicked him out of the house and he got fed up with his parents calling him out on his s**t. He packed his bags and left without any remorse for his actions. His father was too disgusted by his actions but they could only watch. They ended up homeless numerous times. The woman wanted to go back to her family sleeping on a bed but chose to stay with him until the cops were called on him and DV social worker walked her to a police car for safety. They were able to drive her back home safe. One month later, she kept on going back to him. During the relationship, he spiked her drink and sexually assaulted her at his grandmother’s house which he should’ve gone to jail for it. He became abusive towards her physically, mentally, emotionally, and sexually. They ended up moving in apartment during covid. He became more worse and worse until September of 2021, she finally hit her breaking point. She drove to the court house and filed a restraining order against him for good. She detached herself from the relationship and landlord removed him out of the house instantly. She received a lot more support than him. Friends did an interview with her at the anime convention since October 2021 at the rave party. She stated: "I told him that I just paid off my loans and earned my own ride. Now he mad because I won't cover him and his friends bum asses anymore. Boi, I ain't your mommy. I'm my own woman now." It was the best laugh ever. She was still healing from everything. She became her own woman. Four years later, she’s now happily engaged to a good man who makes her feel safe. The new couple are relocated into a new home, work in the same job together, and growing positives in their life. Be thankful that she is with someone better.

Discussion: This is why people don't need to be in a relationship with good people if they don't have the ability to care for the person or show any maturity and respect. Not everyone is made to be a husband or wife at age 18 or early 20s or whatever and I get it. Relationships and marriages is not for anyone. Not everyone deserves to have a life with anyone because of how they conduct themselves. Good people deserve happiness with someone better. Bad people don’t always deserve a life with anyone. Marriage is a life commitment.