HOW I PAY NO ATTENTION TO THE RED FLAGS MARRIAGE GAVE ME THE PAINS, AND HOW I SURVIVED IT WITH 3KIDS.

Title: The Red Flags Marriage Gave Me: The Pains and How I Survived It with 3 Kids Introduction Marriage is a sacred bond between two individuals, built on love, trust, and mutual respect. However, sometimes red flags may appear in a marriage that can cause pain and distress. In this ebook, I will share my personal experience of facing red flags in my marriage and how I managed to survive it with three kids. Chapter 1: Recognizing the Red Flags The first step in dealing with red flags in a marriage is to recognize them. Some common red flags include lack of communication, constant arguments, infidelity, and emotional abuse. It is important to pay attention to these warning signs and address them before they escalate. Chapter 2: Seeking Help When faced with red flags in a marriage, it is crucial to seek help from a therapist counselor, but you need to go back to God who is the originator of marriage don't try to fight it with your physical strength you will loose and and still be beating, prayers really worked for me, if you're not working that's where the problem lies you need to be active, that was the biggest mistake of my life that really put me to shame before God rescue me, I can also be of if you like me to be your councilor my journey was a painful one cause I learn in a hard way if my husband wasn't a born again Christian I will say after all he doesn't know much about God this is some who was to be crowned a pastor but due to his his work he rejected it i was so confident about him. Therapy can provide a safe space to discuss issues, improve communication, and work towards a resolution. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness but a proactive step towards healing and rebuilding the relationship. Chapter 3: Putting the Children First Having children adds an extra layer of complexity to a troubled marriage at a point I become a tigress to my 2 older kids anything they do i will beat them until when they started using me as a prayer point when ever we are having devotion and they started praying for me that was when I realized how much i have changed due to their father's actions towards me so i asked God for mercy change my attitude even when we don't have what to eat we are happy together. It is important to prioritize the well-being of the children and shield them from the negative effects of the marital problems. Creating a stable and loving environment for the kids is essential for their emotional and mental health. Chapter 4: Self-Care and Self-Reflection Dealing with red flags in a marriage can take a toll on your mental and emotional well-being i was really traumatized by my husband action to moved out with his ex girlfriend, this was a man who begged me before I said I do only for us to have minor issue he decided to moved out without even telling me he only lied that his going on a business trip and that was all, he cut all communication, he doesn't feel the children if his online he avoid chatting with me, this is someone we use to do like Romeo and Juliet honestly I went through hell the pain was just too much, the shame cannot just be explained, it tell so quickly on me cause I just gave birth my life was upside down until I laid it down drop it at feet of God; I don't eat well, sleep well, think straight, emotionally down, confused, completely broke, life becomes unbearable, alot of people despise me saying this is what the eyes of jobless woman see, I don't have friends that I can talk to things we're really hard for me, so taking care of of my life was the last thing on my mind I became so tartared with unkept hair it got to a point no more breast milk for my little baby we have to be buying food, I was pale yet nothing changed rather it was becoming worst, but when I encouraged myself in the Lord, I realized how far I have gone i started taking care of myself washed my hair look good for myself and my children become a happy woman again. It is important to practice self-care and self-reflection to maintain your own sanity and strength. Taking time for yourself, engaging in activities you enjoy, and seeking support from friends and family can help you navigate through the challenges. Chapter 5: Moving Forward Surviving a troubled marriage with three kids is no easy feat, but it is possible with determination and resilience. It is important to assess the situation, make tough decisions if necessary, and focus on building a better future for yourself and your children, my pain was much more due to the the fact that i had nothing doing no source of income, my husband was the bread winner it made it very easy for him to made me cry every now and then, he left the house saying a colleague has called him for a job unknown to me it was his ex girlfriend he traveled to go and meet in another state that was how I was left with 3 kids the third child was just few weeks old, I had to start looking for jobs, attending webinars thinking something good can come out of it, I was frustrated, traumatized cause I just gave birth the whole world came crashing down on me with no one around me to help I cried day and night yet nothing changes rather pain upon pain, this makes my husband happy when he came home to do something and immediately left who wants to be with a pathetic sorrowful woman, until someone pinched me and said why you did leave God out of this why are you fighting alone wipe your tears cry to God for direction this man doesn't worth all this stress his not even seeing it, that was when I picked up my pieces cause I was really broken and I remembered Maria Cary sorry if spell the name wrongly her song titled" hero in you" sincerely if you look inside your heart you will know that the hero lies in you; I put on a new garment of joy, I played, laugh with my my kids when ever I want to go out I will look for help for them cause they are still small whenever I wanted to feel it especially when no one is around to look after the children I quickly snapped out it with one word in my head what of if his dead won't I live so I see him dead to me and move on with it wasn't easy trust me but the ending is sweet once you are healed from the inside you will be able to let him go, be that award winning mother, the celebrated lady you are always looking forward to be let God heal you give you directions get something on your hands get busy leave him for God to deal with eat well, sleep well let God fight for you. Remember that you deserve happiness and peace in your life. Conclusion Facing red flags in a marriage can be a painful and challenging experience, but it is possible to survive it with grace and strength. By recognizing the warning signs, seeking help, prioritizing the children, practicing self-care, and moving forward, you can overcome the obstacles and emerge stronger than ever. Remember that you are not alone in this journey, and there is always hope for a brighter tomorrow.