ACE OF TEEN

I would even wonder! How much we would have been grown from childhood to teen.Life was so facile and sweet as lime. Everyday u will hope to seed your time. My day never changes without asking if i am ok ,where is the future taking me.During my childhood I had two questions, one is why human races are disunite in the name of religion and another question are people are actually happy in their adulthood.I never got an answer during childhood.But now I feel both are darkness of reality.I feel that only three type of people are actually racing with us.There are introvert ,extrovert and ambivert personality.Introverts are those who feel this world is so competitive soo they want to be in their own zone,which is most painful then being friendzoned.Extroverts are those who can fill their presence soo easily without hesitation,being like them cause least problem.Ambivert are those who can be both like chameleon,I feel being chameleon can avoid you from unnecessary problems.Indian proverb uses chameleon to mention most betraying person.The answer for the second question I realised after entering teen,that no person is happy after their completion of schooling.Mostly asian teacher use to describe teen and adulthood are the wonderful days of our life, holding tears and responsibilities over their back.If they would have taught us only school life gives happiness,I would have never felt the burden of my school bag,never skipped my lunch,never took leave for unrealistic reason.When the days are no more,I want it more.The friendships that we have made,the lesson we have learnt in school never changes.I beleive school days are the happiest days of our lives because we are protected,love unconditionally,and free from worldly responsibility.School days are the best as our mom allowed us five extra minutes in bed every second school days were better than today because no matter how much window panes we broke or tyres we punctured,we were loved and showered with affections by our parents.Our grandparents pampered us spoilt in the vacations with grandma cooking delicious meals and grandpa taking us to adventure trips in the woods.No matter how close the exam days was,we would continue to sleep for those extra five minutes in bed while mom gathered material for us to quickly revise our lessons.Those days were the precious days as, we were untouched by stress and the struggles of being responsible for one's actions all the time.At the end of a day in school,our feet were dirty,hair was messy,but our eyes were sparkling with a wish to have another wonderful day at school.School life was soo happiest for extrovert and ambivert,but for introvert it is compared to nightmares as per reports.They hate being a part of the full- house morning assembly.Introverts hate being picked by their teacher for loud reading in front of the whole class.Introverts are miserably nervous on the day when their friend doesn't come to school then they had to travel alone and face people.The most miserable part of school life is being bullied by classmates who are stronger and outgoing. Being an introvert is challenging not only in schools,every where they go.As per the reports socialising has been increased a lot ,without socialising with people it will cause problems in their life.Most introvert should question themself that "Who am I"?.The answer is simple.We ,as living beings,search for and find comfort in a solid sense of identity.It grounds us.It gives us confidence and our sense of identity affects every single things in our lives from the choices we make to the values we live by. According to shahram Heshmat Ph.D., author of science of choice,"Identity relates to our basic values that dictate the choices we make( e.g., relationships,career).These choices reflect who we are and what we value".There are five ways to help answer the question,"Who am I?". In the first place you need to reflect upon yourself as the quote of king pop,"I'm starving with the man in the mirror". Moreover decide who you want to be,because u can never be a perfect person.There's no such things as a perfect person.You have to embrace the fact that you will never be perfect.But,on the path to self- discovery,you should embrace that there are things you want to improve.Tertiarily,make better choices for yourself.The truth is ,most of us are programmed to make choices out of fear.We instantly make an easy choice based on anxiety,desire to please,or because we don't want to put in the effort.Clinical psychologist Marcia Reynolds says that " Choices means you are free to do or not do something because you decided on your own".Quarterly , explore your passions.One of the best parts about discovering the answer to"who am I",is figuring out parts of yourself you never knew about.Sure,you've figured out who you "want to be" and you've done a great job "looking in the mirror",but there's always going to be a parts of you that are hidden away.When you engage in things you are passionate about,you stimulate creative energies.Some teen might get confused over what is passion.Passion not only describe about job,sport or hobby.It is the full force of your attention and energy that you give to whatever is right in front of you,and if you're busy looking for the passion ,you could miss opportunities that changes your life.lastly,develop your social circle which is very much necessitate.Humans are social beings by nature,so much of our identity is shaped by our friends and family.When you work to figure out "Who you are",you have to actively create your social circle.You must find people who are aligned with your values and identity.Author and life coach Mike Bundrant explain that " when you understand what's most important to you in life,your life values,you can clarify who you are by choosing your social circles bases on compatible values.You can have great clarity in your relationships,too,as you see yourself reflected in the people around you".When you embrace that your identity is dynamic ,you take a lot of pressure off of yourself to pin down exactly who you are Relax! You're you.You know what you value ,what you like,and what you want to be.you got the basics down! If those changes,That's ok.Start back over from step one.Don't be afraid of growth, no need to panic.Even at the worst time,life has to go. We teenager will always misfortune our present challenges over our future's. Thinking about their future numerous teens loses their life,because of lack of confidence in their life.Many Indian students and part of the worlds students commit suicide,if they got little step back in their career or relationship.According to a 2014 report from the Indian government,exam -related pressure was the largest cause of suicide in Indian's youth.India's student suicide crisis is no new development.India has consistently reported high suicide rates.A large number of suicides were reported in the 15-29 age group.Twenty - two students took their own lives in a week in Telangana in April 2019,because they had failed their school's intermediate exams.But failure to live up to expectations isn't the only cause for students suicide.A 17- year- old from ghaziabad took her own life after she cracked the IIT-JEE entrance examination in 2016, she committed suicide due to parents pressure.Dr Amit Sen says, "Indian has the highest number of deaths by suicide among youngsters.Across the world the largest cause of death in youth is road accidents,but in India,it's suicide".Nowadays education has become a playground for all ministers to play with students mind.Educational institutions impart knowledge to students,lay emphasis on their physical well- being and prepare them for social challenges.Mostly pressure arises from parents as they want to see their children competing among the world and become the great person.Pressure from parents to perform well in exams can affect a child's mental health.Being bullied by other kids can act as a trigger,and the real reason behind a student's difficulties with concentration and learning may be ADHD.Mental concern often manifest themselves as poor academic performance,lack of motivation,social interaction issues with peers or teachers,and even self- harm.In India,parents often go into denial mode when it comes to their child's mental health,resorting to statements like,"My child has no problem!".parents should change such attitude and change their style of raising their child without any pressure. We as a teenager should let things go which keep on creating mess.Try to balance your relationships as well as career.More than relationship majority people face problems in their career.All the chaos emerge in one's life through the entrance exam which pull down once hope.I would sound studious,but this is the reality.The education system has been corrupted.Only few get the fortune out of merits but it doesn't stay for long.As long as corruption is escalated like viruses,no life's can be seeded it's roots. As i live in india,i could tell how horrifying is our education system,but other countries are better as far they have concern for their people.We indian has to fight within the country itself for our right for education.As our Government is only concerned about Money,We Indian students have to travell around other small countries for pursuing our desired career.We Indian students every day faces difficulties to survive in extreme climate,language barrier,culture and food. As a reference we can consider Russian and Ukraine War ,where many people lost their life and living as refugee.Indian students are not less than refugee ,when war took place in ukraine.They were in extreme situation that they were obligate to choose between their life or career.Many students were shattered after returning to their Home.Every year they return with joy but this time with so much pain.Here we have to thank our government for saving their life but standing a mile away. When we lost our students in war that time they took grievous action to save them,that to standing away from border.When students reached the boarders they where treated harshly by boarder officer and they threatened with a g*n pointing against them,and this was the way our government saved them. These students are suffering till now,several are waiting for the government to accommodate in Indian premises.Many students hope vanquished so they flew to another country for completing their studies.Due to this instance they are so much disturbed through government action.This what happening in today's scenario.But as a teenager we should still respect our country and change our judiciary for the sake of our future generation.It's basically the hope to cure commodity before the actual losses. As a teenager we had never got the interrogation for certain feelings through out our life's.We kept thinking how it happens and why it happens.We kinda be judgemental sometime's or be mad in it sometime's. Till Now also many would have not got what I am speaking about,because no one know the respect it hold. Sometime's it would be in the form of cloud,sometime's in the form of rain,Sometime's in the form of chirrup of nightingale, Sometime's in the intimidation of ed sheeran song, Sometime's has nostalgic chemistry between moon and the sky.I am talking about love,this is the reason i never felt in love,because i kept it too heigh. Ever generation would know the greatest love tale of jack and rose of titanic,that thought us how to sacrifice in love. Many nostalgic love tale made our standard heigh.As i am Indian, Our Bollywood was not less in love tale, kept creating magic in love narrative's.Our generation is so fortunate that we living in this era. The more i speak about it,the more i feel soo incredible.Even the moon senses shy ,being with the sky make the remarkable history.At it's core , love is an intense feeling of affection,connection,and care towards someone or something.Love can take many different forms, including romantic love ,familial love,and love for friends or pets.Love have different language which include feelings, commitment and all is about love.This era teaches us the physical experience of love.The one with the heart,manifest the love with blossom of all season,craving for the happiness of life. Let's visualize the fairytale of my life.Thinking about my fortune I started feeling for my love.I never thought a day can change a mile away.This day made me to realise how one can be that much mad in love.The mad person was me.That time i was pursuing my higher secondary in India.The life in South India was soo beautiful,The hot breeze during summer,The dream we hold,The beauty we hold.That was the hot spring season,The first time when i saw him my heart beat was waving a beat high,my eyes was still ,it gave kdrama aura.He was soo tall,had attractive eye which melted my heart.His eyes were like the ocean deep and blue full of emotion,that twinkle like the star above,and fill my soul with endless love.They way when he looked into my eyes that took me an decade back.But when they say love is red rather it is blue as the skies,that float endlessly.I loved the way how he pronounced my name, i enjoyed to hear it.As day passed by my love for him enhanced more and more ,deeper and deeper.We shared the closest of all bond. One day he blindfolded me and made a surprise on my birthday,iced on the cake stating"Together&forever".The way he whispered in my ears "Together&Forever"still in my heart.He told that day that "Meet me,where the falling star lives; i will wait for you day and night ".My face redden in his love, he gave cozy hugg and kissed me in my cheek and went down the knee and said "I wish i could make you my beginning,middle and end,Forever.I too went down the knee kissed in his cheek and ran away.We sat near the sea in the rain,for the first time in my life.i felt as though i belong right there,in that moment,with him.This how beauty of love felt like,The sweetness of his love is more irresistible than honey,That i hooded a chance. We teenagers not only believe in true love,we believe in magical love.Which we get only from our mothers.First of all,Mother is a word which fills everyone with emotions.Our mother's love for us is the most important in our life.Mother love cannot be compared with anything.A mother has a ability to sacrifice anything for her child's happiness.My mother is a gem out of it. Today I am going to share a glimpse of my mother life.Similar to any other girls in Asia,she was born and had a very chaotic living.Now in this 21st century atleast we have intelligence to think and aspire.Those days just people started to live a normal life all over world.After the terrific nazi attack of Adolf Hitler all over Europe and liberation of republic of India from East India company of Britain.Those people who lived in that era never would have faced that much difficulty than their future buds.My mom was one of those who was facing their ancestral burden.She would have never thought ill of anyone.Those days being a girl was like curse,mainly in India.She was born in a soldier family that she is so disciplined one.She use to take every situation into a challenge and overcome with a smile,in her words "Smiling is sunnah".She comes from the Southern part of India,she believes in Allah so she is from muslim community.My mom used to say,every religion has its way of belief respect it with kindness.In India there was no future for girls in career,there parents used to get them married.Even if they have any desire to achieve,they were not allowed to step out of house.Only male were considered as their parents heir.Female were just enslaving in all over the country.My mother was soo stubborn,she learned to design clothes and work in toy shop.Even though life gave her challenge,she was firm at her desires.Then she got married with her cousin,that was common in a muslim family.Those days people never had a chance to choose their life partner,even though they were 18+ never ever had a chance to fraternize with other genders.In Harry Potter there would be a verus like"he is the cursed child"personifying Harry, similarly my mother life was cursed once she got marriage to a psychotic male egoistic man.She use to be fine with her long distance husband,who went to abroad for his family welfare.During Mughal Empire and Marathi Empire,beloved one's used pigeon as their emails because those days they were no phone or mankind.But at my mother time,their was a post mail to share their feelings for one another.Now when I use to read those letters it was full of Shakespeare art of words with love,never their was a l**t in that.One year of their marriage,I was born as a mistake because they planned to have a child after 3 or 4 year. I and my mother use to live in unwell house with my father's family.It was not a healthy place to raise a baby.Even though my mother's warmth kept me healthy and prosperous.Not only environmentally she had problems, especially she had problems by her inlaw father.She used to say me that my grandfather will treat her soo ill that he will threaten her with a knife.Her husband will not consider it as a big deal because he want to settle his family members.My mother faced a lot,her only way of distraction from this problem is me.She uses to pamper me a lot,till now also she does.My father, never use to think of us.My mother use to cry a lot at nights,which was her biggest nightmare,i use to comfort her with a hugg and use to kiss her.My mother took it as challenge and started to accept it and as per my father's plan,she managed the house and raised her husband's brother and sister as her responsibility and gave them career and did marriage to them.After four years of her marriage life another child was born in her life.That time her husband landed into India and never went back to abroad in the happiness of his 2nd girl child.I don't know why he never liked me as his child,Do any one know the reason.If known tell me.My mother never made me to feel the un presence of my father even he was around me.She was my everything.In 2011 she had her third girl child,after 9 years of her marriage she finally got relieved from the mass suicidal spot.Eventally we shifted to flats, thinking that we finally had to live our own life,But she was wrong.My father was soo concerned about his brother and his sister family rather than us.She took it in a very elegant way,and started giving a warmth house for us being a mother as well as father playing both the role's.I was soo much inspired from my mother way of handling life.My father use to scold me like more than a hell,but my mom use to boost up me through her kindness and softness.She made who I am today,the only backbone of mine.Her husband just declared a sentence biggest then Adolf Hitler,but he had no idea about Adolf Hitler's foolish act destroyed his own house.She is being the best mom ,and she will be ever.I wish I could make her proud one day. Now u would beleive that I am a 2k kid,this is as per Indianacknowledgement.Teenagers of other country will never feel nostalgic for their parents when they started moving out for living their life.Most parents would agree that parenting is extremely complex and challenging.What works for one child,might not work for another - even within the same family.Parenting practices and beliefs around the world can also be strikingly different.There are many examples for this fact.Japanese children are often allowed to ride the subway by themselves from as young as seven.This would be considered unthinkable to parents in some other countries. Both in Japan and Norway, parents are focused on cultivating independence.Simlarly,the idea of children going to bed at 6.30pm is horrifying to many Spanish or Latin American parents who see it as critical for children to take part in family life during the evening. Researchers have explored cultural and historical differences in parenting practices for many years.Research shows that differences in parenting can have significant implications for child development.Indeed,the emotional bond ( ''attachments'') that children have with their parents or caregivers can have lasting effects.Essentially, attachment theory focuses on the "Psychological connectedness between human beings".The theory looks at the quality of the intimate bonds we make during the course of our lives, with a specific focus on parent - child relations. Parents in different cultures often have different approaches to parenting.While children in India have more unstructured playtime, children in the U.S are often encouraged to think independently from a young age.In Norway and other Scandinavian countries,fresh air is considered so important that infants are bundle up even in cold winters and nap outside in their strollers.As per report in Norway, it is not allowed for the parents'as' well as children to have any emotional bonding, because they believe that it will affect the mental balance of childrens.This rule is not only applicable for inhabitants,it is also applicable for foreigner who reside for jobs. If they disobey the law ,their children are sent to childcare homes. In Norway ,childhood is strongly institutionalized,says Norwegian sociologist and economist Margunn Bjornholt.Indeed,most children enter state-sponsored daycare at 1year old,then enter school and organized activities.Children in Italy are usually allowed to taste wine or alcohol with the rest of their family during meals.These examples would be seens as shocking in other parts of the world where entire industries are centred around indoor play areas in winter and the legal drinking age 18 or 21 is adhered to strictly.There are so many unspoken norms in our different cultures that breaking them becomes taboo even when it make sense.One such taboo in the U.S is adult- age kids living with parents. In the words of Melanie Hamlett, "Somehow it makes more sense in America to rack up thousands of dollars in debt, move into a teenier-tinier tiny house,or even continue living with a partner you kinda hate than to ensure the shame of being a young adult crashing in your childhood bedroom".I don't mean to suggest that adult children living with parents is an ideal solution in all situations.It's just that insinuating that people who don't move out as soon as they turn 18 are somehow less-than can force people into making sub-optimal life choices.The American desire for solutions is starting to radiate outwards.A growing awareness of the scarcity of resources, and the potential for true social mobility,is increasing the pressure on parents globally to "parents" their kids,as a verb.In Scandinavia,there is an emphasis on a democratic relationship between parents and children. In Sweden especially,the "rights" of a child are important.For examples,a child has the "right" to access their parents' bodies for comfort,and therefore should be allowed into their parents'bed with them in the middle of the night.If a parent doesn't allow them,they are both denying them their rights and being a neglectful parent.In part of Asia, meanwhile co- sleeping with a family member through late childhood is common.Korean parents spend more time holding their babies and having physical contact than most.But within a family, obedience is key-not democracy. One Korean mother who Harkness interviewed played English tapes to her 2- month- old baby " because it's never too early to start ",she says In Jewish tradition, there's a teaching in the Talmud that every parent has an obligation to teach their child how to swim.In the Netherlands, meanwhile parents used "smart" to describe their children only 10 percent of the time.Dutch parents believe strongly in not pushing their children too hard.Instead, regularly scheduled rest,food and a pleasant environment are the top priorities for Dutch parents.In Taiwan, the most popular parenting books are translations of American guides.In Greece,it is custom to spit at a baby three times to ward off evil spirits,bad luck, and more specifically the evil eye.Traditionally, Irish couples save the top of their wedding cake for their first child's christening.Kisii parents, in Kenya don't make eye contact with their newborn babies as eye contact is a form of authority and they don't want to bestow such power on a baby.In Nigeria, the Igbo tribe take newborn to the family's ancestral house.Veitnamese parents potty- train their babies using a whistle.Yet parental anxiety is a terrible idea to export.Instead, "we should be learning from each other, "says Harkness, "and recognizing that there are very different successful pathways to raising children". The diversity of ideas should be liberating,not stress-inducing,aggressive Gross-Loh."It was incredibly freezing to realize that there was no single way to do things and it's totally okay to make mistakes as a parent," says Gross-Loh of her research."It gave me space to let my children be who they are,and let them grow into that".The U.S home to immigrants who brig their own traditions from around the world,is uniquely positioned to both learn and let go.American parents can recast their Seriousness as they see fit,drawing on both global tradition and present theory.Will they? Tomorrow's children may decide. Damn, life is not easy as you think my fellowmates.Life takes you to several situations to make you handle it in a firm way.Hope you guys understand what I am speaking about.In the beginning I would have questioned myself that do people are really happy in their adulthood.I would like to tell you people that life predestinated,even if we had power to change any scenario of past,The destiny will never change.So people try to be very more precise to act upon on decision.Since destiny revolve around our gravitational force.Even worlds major mystery glimpse us with wonders.If you go through history of our world,u might get the idea that universe is predestinated.I would like to share my research of Bermuda Triangle with you.It has been major mystery in the world,were 20 airplanes and 50 ships gone missing near the north Atlantic coast of Florida.Even scientists and researchers were confused about this fact.When Columbus went across the Atlantic Ocean,he observed that some unmagnified object through eye was falling beneath the ocean.Many were haunted by this mystery,started to created story and made people to beleive blindly.As per science,if that aircraft and ship would have lost their stability to fly and crashed within the oceans due to hurricanes and sea volcano.I think major mystery happens only cause of climate change.This hypothesis created by scientists were not 100th%correct till today. Similarly Titanic mystery,Malaysia (MH370 airplanes) disappearance mystery,even Taj Mahal the gem of Indian also have mystery.This all mystery has been escalated among people is due to media,later on many story were told by normal people to create massive effect among people.Now a days media is using Adolf Hitler's p********a technique to keep a mystery alive, spreading fake news. I will never say that this mystery happens over years are not totally untrue,the history behind it soo complicated.Even scientists could not give accurate cause for such disaster.Titanic are not considered massive mystery because, that disaster created terrific effect among people.Actually it was less mystery than a disaster.Titanic ship got crashed over an ice mountain which was more sharper.Even the ship owners stated that this ship is unsinkable.Over 1,500 people lost their life,and were floating on the sea which rescue team arrived.Malaysia (MH370 airplanes) disappearance mystery created major impact among people.The flight was from Malaysia to Beijing,but this airplanes got missed from the radar during entering into the Vietnamese air radar.Many were astonished Due to this mystery,America troop and malaysian troop started to search this flight contacting satellite,but we can't get exact location of flight using this information.It took long periods of time to find this mismatched mystery.After many years scientists and researchers told that the plane has been crashed in the arch line near Indian sea and Andaman Nicobar Iceland.People are missing till now but, plane parts has been founded nearby seas. One of the germs of Indian is "Taj Mahal",that has been considered as shiv temple before it was A monuments,as per some media and PN Oak ,self historian.As per PN Oak's methodology Taj Mahal was know as Tejo mahalaya ,build in 1212 by Raja Paramardi Dev.Many conspiracy has been made against Taj Mahal.Some told that Taj Mahal was annexed by Raja Jai Singh from Sha Jahan.sha Jahan obtain the land from Raja Jai Singh through giving many haveli to him. But actually as per ASI "Taj Mahal is Tomb not a temple over any periods.Even Taj Mahal's 12 door mystery has been appealed in court,but ASI stated that it has been closed for preserving monuments in it.Many historians proved that Taj Mahal was build in 16 century by 20,000 workers in the love for Mumtaz Mahal.Now people who would have got clear picture that whatever we see, whatever we hear, whatever we feed in the name of media is not true,untill we can know exact history through articles.We teens can anytime step into adulthood,so we should be soo precise about everything. One of the best T.V shows in California which was aired from 1994-2004 was F.r.i.e.n.d.s.Which shows you that life is not easy when we step into adulthood.The cast names were Matthew Perry as Chandler,Courteney Cox as monica,Matt LeBlanc as Joey,David schwimmer as Ross,Lisa Kudrow as phoebe and Jennifer Anniston as Rachel.That show was not just the show ,it was the life difficulty we all face during those time.I wish I hope once I visit California for visiting apartment of monica and Chandler and get pleasure.Till now that show has same level of aura.It fills positivity among people.That Show has intro song which quoted as"So no one told you life was gonna be this way Your job's a joke, you're broke Your love life's DOA It's like you're always stuck in second gear When it hasn't been your day, your week, your month Or even your year, but I'll be there for you (When the rain starts to pour) I'll be there for you (Like I've been there before) I'll be there for you ('Cause you're there for me too)"It quoted soo real as it was. life is easy when u make it happens precisely.I wish we all could make a hay while the sun shines.