Manipulation at its finest.

Perfection Manipulation

If you're curious I'm glad, I didn't really pay attention to the characters in movies and shows that were always pressured to be perfect because why were they whining? Most of them had great lives even though they always had to be perfect, but whilst growing up it's become clear just how toxic and manipulative that is.

Again a recent movie does an amazing job showcasing this but they don't just show the mother and daughter Perfection Manipulation but the generational one, unfortunately it doesn't go back a lot of generations to show just how much of generational manipulation was happening but we can assume for at least a few centuries. I was surprised how many people who saw the movie didn't point out how it's not just pressure, it's manipulation and almost groomed the daughter, but the blame is not 100% the mother's fault. She hasn't experienced anything other than that Perfection Manipulation from her own mother which has led her to unintentionally pass that onto her own daughter.

Sometimes people know that they're being manipulated like that and a lot of the time they promise themselves never to do the same to their own children, I'm sorry to say but unless you can find someone who will treat you differently then you will most likely, unintentionally, do the same as your parents.

Are you wondering if you can stop yourself? I've often told myself there was certain things I'd also never do, it seems I failed too many times to count but I'll keep trying.

Do you pressure yourself to be perfect? A while back I wrote a short paragraph on youtube to a villain playlist where my villain had a conversation with the hero telling them they don't have to be the good guy, that the moment they stop being perfect the world will turn against them but not her. The villain would love him because once she had been the heroine...until she messed up being perfect once and was suddenly labelled a villain.

Do you feel like a failure when you stop being perfect?

Do you sometimes once alone break free from the fake and let yourself be yourself again?

I'll let you know now, you can stop pretending or trying so damn hard to be perfect. Don't be afraid to let your family down or the people you're trying to be perfect for. At least here, with me, you can be yourself and I won't judge or stop you. If you wanna scream or cry into this book please do, don't rip my pages though! That hurts ;-; Your imperfections are more beautiful than you think, don't try to cover them up with makeup or fake smiles otherwise you'll never have anyone be true with you when you can't even be true to yourself.

I don't know about you but my head's starting to really hurt...

We will carry on in the next chapter, please remember though that perfection is not the end all be all. Don't push yourself to be perfect if that is pressured by anyone other than yourself, do you want to be perfect? Or be you?