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Intimacy after long term commitment

Strange but common facts as people we In counter problems in our relationship. mostly one person in a relationship makes it difficult for the other pair when it comes to intimacy which is selfishness.

If I'm a woman in my 30's to 50 always tired of being intimate with my partner but I don't want him to cheat. To be realistic what am I expecting, I don't condone the cheating as it is a good thing but man love intimacy . some of them you can give In everyday with no complaints but still go out to be intimate with multiple women that one is disgusting.

I have been encountering multiple men who are married when we are sitting randomly always asking why women change after they get married they no longer behave wildly as they used to be before they get married.

1. Most women I have talk to about intimacy they complain about men being stereotype when it comes to intimacy meaning as a women you know how it will start and the end of the intimate because women are other creatures they get bored easily but some of them they scared to talk about it because their partner a hard head , simple discussion end with arguments,like were did you learn to do what you doing and end up calling names.

2. The most difficult situation that women face in closed doors is that the men come a bit earlier than before they got married due to age and women end up struggling to be certified instead of the partner to talk about it they keep crawling in the bush. Communication is the key to the relationship, where you get time with your pair to talk about intimacy and open up about how you feel and how to fix a problem you encounter as partners.

3. I think everything we do in life comes from our head if the brain is off everything in our body shut down. The most course of it is being comfortable with a person and forget what made you love the person and we fail to learn how to spice the relationship because now we no longer alone we have to multiply the care with the kids and we no longer visit each other we stay in one roof.

4. With my experience what I have learned or seen after the long term commitment down fall is that the idea of staying with a person you love it a no no . yet when you haven't seen it sounds selfish but when you learn while staying with a person for decade years you will get my point of view regarding this experience.

when you have time to breathe on your own, think , you get time to love yourself then it makes it easy to love the partner in the proper way because as partners when we stay together we end up building the idea that you own the person which creates fight and less intimacy. It is nice to miss and have deep imagination about your partner even before you meet it makes you crave for him/her and when the intimacy happens it a most great feeling you don't wanna let go off.

If you stay full time with a person you get bored that I know what I'm gonna get maybe the other partner will say I'm tired not because she/ he is tired it because the isn't a spark anymore.

5. how to create a spark in a relationship make new habits with your partner, ask deep questions where you need an honest answer about making love is it below his/ her expectations or not . when you get an honest answer I instead of being angry with the truth find out how do they want it to be like as the day you have conversation. if you have to watch adult videos, sleep in motel, have you own time together away from the kids . it will bring spark up.

6. Relationship is a two way street if no effort made on both ways obviously the other pair will get tired of trying with someone who doesn't seem to have any effort at all. spoil your women and also spoil your man . Go to late night dinner, buy gift, wear sexy clothes. this tendency of wearing pyjamas the entire day and old clothes is a turn off . sometimes be beautiful In such a way your man becomes jealous of you . It gives him a spark and challenges of what made him love you in the first place.

positive mind, positive attitude, positive behaviour all that lead to a positive relationship..