Relationship do’s and dont’s

Hello

I’m marion aged 22 and i’m here to talk about relationships especially amongst youths and teenagers

1. DEFINE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Be sure to teach your teen about the foundations of a healthy relationship. Explain that a healthy relationship comes from respect, mutual understanding, trust, honesty, communication, and support.

A relationship should consist of healthy boundaries that are established and respected by both partners equally. A good partner will accept you as you are, support your personal choices, and praise you for your achievements. A healthy relationship also allows both partners to maintain outside interests and friendships, and does not hinder the personal freedom of either partner.

2. DESCRIBE THE DIFFERENT TYPES OF a***e AND ASSOCIATED WARNING SIGNS

There are many different types of a***e your teen should be aware of before entering into a relationship. These include physical, emotional, s****l, financial, and digital a***e, as well as stalking.

Physical a***e occurs when a person uses physical force to harm another, but need not result in visible injuries to qualify. Hitting, kicking, pushing, biting, choking, and using weapons are all forms of physical a***e.

Emotional a***e can take the form of insults, humiliation, degradation, manipulation, and intimidation. Emotional a***e can involve forced isolation, coercion, or use of fear or guilt to control or belittle.

Sexual a***e involves any act that directly or indirectly impacts a person’s ability to control their own s****l activity and the conditions surrounding it. It can take many forms, including forced s****l activity, using other means of a***e to pressure one into an activity, and restricting access to condoms or birth control.

Financial a***e is a form of emotional a***e that uses money or material items as a means of power and control over another person.

Digital a***e is any form of emotional a***e using technology. A person may use social media, texting, or other technological means to intimidate, manipulate, harass, or bully someone.

Stalking is persistent harassment, monitoring, following, or watching of another person. These behaviors can be difficult for teens to recognize as a***e, as they may sometimes see it as flattering or believe the other person is engaging in such behaviors only out of love.

If you’re feeling unsure about how to teach your teen to distinguish between a healthy and unhealthy relationship, or if you would like additional resources on the warning signs of relationship a***e or promoting positive relationships, consider visiting loveisrespect.org. Loveisrespect is a nonprofit organization that works to educate young people about healthy relationships and create a culture free of a***e. Its website offers a wealth of information for teens and parents and provides 24/7 support via phone, text, or chat.

3. EXPLAIN THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN l**t, INFATUATION, AND LOVE

Distinguishing between infatuation and love can be difficult for many adults; imagine how complicated it can be for a teenager who is experiencing many new feelings for the first time. Take a moment to explain to your teen that attraction and desire are physiological responses that can occur separately from emotions.

Make sure he or she understands that infatuation is not the same as love. Infatuation may give us butterflies, goose bumps, and that “can’t eat, can’t sleep” type of feeling, but it isn’t the same as love. Love takes time to grow, whereas infatuation may happen almost instantly.

4. TALK REALISTICALLY ABOUT SEX

While it may be tempting to skip this conversation, it’s in everyone’s best interests to talk to your teen about s*x. Ask yourself whether you want your teen to hear this information from you or someone else.

On its website, the Mayo Clinic suggests turning the topic into a discussion rather than a presentation. Be sure to get your teen’s point of view and let your teen hear all sides from you. Discuss the pros and cons of s*x honestly. Talk about questions of ethics, values, and responsibilities associated with personal or religious beliefs.

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