GOALS! How to get everything you want faster than you ever thought possible.

TAKE CHARGE OF YOURSELF. A man, as a general rule, owes very little to what he is born with-- a man is what he makes of himself. When i was twenty, i was broke and living in a small one-room apartment in the middle of a very cold winter, working as a cleaner during the day. In the evening, i usually couldn't go out of my apartment, where at least it was warm, so i had a lot of time to think. One night as i sat at my small kitchen table, i had a great flash of awareness. it changed my life. I suddenly realized that everything that would happen to me for the rest of my life was going to be up to me. No one else was ever going to help me,no one was coming to my rescue. I was thousands of miles from home with no intentions of going back for a long time. I saw clearly at that moment that if anything in my life were going to change, it would have to begin with me, if i didn't change,nothing else would change. There, i was standing on the edge of life, And i decided to jump. From that moment onward, I accepted that i was in charge of my life i knew that, if i wanted my situation to be different, i would have to be different, everything was upto me. I letter learn that when you accept complete responsibility for your life, you take the giant step from childhood to adulthood. Sadly enough, most people never do this, i have met countless men and women in their forties and fifties who are still blaming their problems on other people and circumstances. Many people are still angry about something that one of their parents did or did not do to or for them twenty or thirty of forty years ago, they are trap in the past and they cant get free. Your Worst Enemies. The greatest enemies of success and happiness are negative emotions of all kinds. Negative emotions hold you down, tire you out, and take away all your joy in life, negative emotions from the begining of rime have done more harm to individuals and societies than all the plagues of history. One of your most important goals, if you want to be truly happy and successful, is to free yourself from negative emotions, the negative emotions of fear, self pity, envy, jealousy, feelings of inferiority, and untimely anger are mostly caused by four factors. Once you identify and remove these factors from your thinking, your negative emotions stop automatically. When your negative emotions stop, the positive emotions of love, peace, joy, and enthusiasm flow in to replace them, and your whole life changes for the better, sometimes in a matter of minutes or even seconds. Factors. 1.Stop justifying: Its a first and the four root causes of negative emotions, you can be negative only as long as you can justify to yourself and others that you are entitled to be angry or upset for some reason.This is why angry people are continually explaining and elaborating on the reasons for their negative feelings. However, if you can cannot justify your negativity you cannot be angry. 2. Refuse to Rationalize and Make Excuses. When you rationalize, you attempt to give a "Socially acceptable explanation for an otherwise socially unacceptable act."Rationalization and justification always require that you make someone or something else the source or cause of your problem. 3.Rise Above The Opinion Of Others.The third cause of negative emotions is an over-concern or a hypersensitivity about the way other people treat you.For some people,their entire self-image is determined by the way other person speak to them,they have little sense of personal value or self-worth apart from the opinion of others. 4.Realize That No One Else Is Responsible.This is the worst of all, blaming,from now on,refuse to blame anyone fir anything -past, present or future,No One can make you feel inferior without your consent.Any time you blame someone else or make excuses,you give your power away, you feel weakend and diminished,you feel negative and angry inside,refuse to do it. RESPONSIBILITY IS THE ANTIDOTE The antidote for negative emotions of all kind is for you to accept a complete responsibility for your situation.You can't say the word ."I am responsible," and still feel angry, the very act of accepting responsibility short-circuits and cancel out any negative emotions you may be experiencing. "I am responsible" it's an instant ability to eliminate negative emotions.it's only when you free yourself from negative emotions,by taking complete responsibility,that you can begin to set and achieve goals in every area of your life.once you accept total responsibility for your life,there are no limits on what you can be,do,and have. Control Your Emotions To keep your mind positive,refuse to criticize, complain about ,or condemn other people for anything.Every time you criticize someone else,complain about something you don't like,or condemn someone else for something that they have done or do not done, you trigger feelings of negativity and anger within yourself,and you are the one who suffers,it doesn't affect the other person at all,remember "positive emotions empower; negative emotions disempower."Positive emotions of happiness, excitement,love and enthusiasm make you feel more powerful and confident. "Negative emotions of anger,hurt,or blame weaken you and make you hostile,irritable,and unpleasant to be around. Once your decide to accept complete responsibility for your self, your situation,and everything that happens to you,you can turn confidently toward your work and the affairs of your life,you become the master of your fate and the captain of your soul." Develop Your Strategy Just as the president of a corporation is responsible for the strategy and activities of the corporation, you are responsible for the personal strategic planning of your own life and career.You are responsible for overall Management strategy -setting goals, Making plans, establishing measures,and performing to get results.You are responsible for achieving certain output: the quality and quantity of the work that you produce and the results you are expected to get. You are responsible for Marketing strategy:Self promotion and advancement, creating your image,and packaging yourself to be able to sell yourself for the very highest price in a competitive Market.You are responsible for financial strategy ,by deciding exactly how much your services you want to sell,how much you want to earn,how rapidly you want to grow your income Year by year,how much you want to save and invest,and how much you want to be worth when retiring,this numbers are entirely up to you,your choice of a boss is going to have a major impact on how much you earn, how fast you get a head,and how happy you will be at work, so "Choose your boss with care." Make New Choice,New Decision By the same token your choice of a mate and friends will have as much or more to do with your success and happiness than any other decisions you Make,if you are not happy with the choices you make,it is up to to you to begin taking steps to improve or change them,as the director,you are in complete charge of personal research and development, personal training and learning. It is upto to you to determine the talent, skills , abilities and core competencies you will need to earn the kind of money you want to earning the months and years ahead. Take The Wheel Of Your Own Life From this point forward,see and think about yourself as the master of your own fate as completely in charge of your own life,see yourself as the director or president of your own personal services corporation,a powerful person, completely self determined and self-directed. Refuse to whine and complain about the event of the past,which cannot be changed, instead,orient yourself toward the future and think of what you want and where you are going, above all,think about your goals.The very act of thinking about your goals makes you positive and purposeful again. It Is In Your Hands The starting point of goal setting is for you to realize that you have virtually unlimited potential to be, have,or do anything you want in life,if you simply want it badly enough and are willing to work long enough and hard enough to achieve it. The second goal is for you to accept complete responsibility for your life, and for everything that happens to you with no blaming and no excuses.With these two concepts- You are now ready to move to the next step,which is begin designing your ideal future. Take Charge Of Your Life. 1.Identify your biggest problem or source of negativity in life today.In what ways are you responsible for this situation? 2.See yourself as the president of your own company.How would you act differently if you owned 100 percent of the shares 3.Resolve today to stop blaming anyone else for anything and instead accept complete responsibility in every area of your life.What actions should you be taking 4.Stop making excuses and start making progress. 5.See yourself as the primary creative Force in your own life,you are where you are and what you are because of your own decisions. 6.Resolve today to forgive anyone who has ever hurt you in any way.let it go, refuse to discus it again,get so busy working on something that's important to you that you don't have time to think about it again. Create Your Own Future You will become as small as your controlling desire;as great as your dominant aspiration. In more than thirty-three hundred studies of leaders conducted over the years, there's a special quality that stands out, one quality that all great leaders have in common, it's the quality of vision, Leaders have vision, non leaders do not. Earlier I said that the most important discovery in human history is that you become what you think about most of the time. What is it then that leaders think about most of the time? The answer is that leaders think about the future and where they are going and what they can do to get there. Non leaders,on the other hand, think about the present and the pleasures and problems of the moment, they think and worry about the past and what has happened that can't be changed. Think About Your Future We call this leadership quality "Future orientation." Leaders think about the future and what they want to accomplish and where they want to arrive sometime down the road. Leaders think about what they want and what can be done to achieve it. The good news is that when you begin to think about your future as well, you begin think like a leader,and you will soon get the same results that leaders get. Having thought about " Long- time Perspective" was the most important determinant of financial and personal success in life, it is also the ability to think several years into the future while making decisions in the present." Just think into the future,it is the better decisions you will make in the present to assure that the future becomes a reality. Become A Millionaire For example, if you saved $100 per month from the age of twenty to the age of sixty-five, and you invested that money in a mutual fund earning an average of 10% per annum over time, you would be worth more than $1,118,000 when you retired. Anyone who really wanted to could save $100 per month, if he or she had a long enough time Perspective. What this means is that people starting work today can become millionaires over time if they begin early enough, save consistently enough, and hold to their long time vision of financial independence. Imagine No Limitations By combining idealization and future orientation, you cancel or neutralize this process of self-limitation. You imagine for the moment that you have no limitations at all, You imagine that you have all the time, talents, and abilities you could ever require to achieve any goal you could set for yourself. No matter where you are in life,You imagine that you have all the friends, contacts, and relationships you need to open every door and achieve anything you could really want, you imagine that you have no limitations whatsoever on what you could be, have, or do in the pursuit of the goals that are really important to you.