The ungrateful girlfriend.

In most African cultures, and marriages the woman becomes a third party and stranger in the marriage. The man is controlled directly or indirectly either by the family members especially the parents or his friends. The woman who is better half is seen as a foreigner in the marriage who is there to satisfy the s****l needs of the handsome and to cook for him.She is not seen as a help or a companion. In case where a young man moves out often with his friends and sometimes girlfriend s yo watch football matches,movies and play draught,ludo,cards and others .He discusses most of his plans and goals with with friends and parents, takes decisions with them without the wife's consent and sometimes even discusses his wife and their s****l life with friends.This is very unethical and unacceptable. On no grounds should you take decisions or undertake a project without the knowledge of your spouse. Your spouse should take should give an input into the decision even if you trust your parents and friends and consider them as experts on the project. In your marriage to succeed, then your should be your best friend in life. You should not see him or her as wife or husband only ,but as your better half who is your counselor , adviser,prayer partner and brother or sister. Those couples who see themselves as friends often do well in their marriage because they discuss issues together before they take decision. Always be ur partner's friend and everything will go well.