If you don't stay default, even when you are right, it becomes your fault if your relationship fails.
Do not make resentment your default setting; else, you will have drawbacks forgiving people who have offended you unjustly. When you focus on someone’s offences even when they have unjustly offended you, you are magnifying their bad qualities and you will start losing the ability to recognize their good qualities.
In my heart, in the course of this period of offences from my ex, bitterness from the hurt gave me an impression not to see her good side. However, immediately I decided, even as I was been led to forgive her from my heart, everything, I mean everything changed for me, despite, some of that attitude often replays. I could not just help it, and keep getting hurts by her. I had
