I Was in an Abusive FICTOSEXUAL Relationship

Mia's Notebook Blog post Idea: “I was in an abusive fictosexual relationship " I’ve always had far-out ideas about love. Up until I was like 18–19, my favorite love story was probably the “A-ha” video “Take On Me.” This vid was so good! I was an animation major in college anyway, and I soooooo wanted to have a love story like this! Something supernatural, something different, something AMAZING!! Something that could last eternally like it was written in the pages of a book. But sadly, all that seemed unlikely… Why? Well, physics …Also, logic. Not real boys are NOT REAL. And then there’s the fact that being a black female… I dunno…we just don’t seem to be the star of too many magical love stories like this. If you think about it, most of our love stories involve us getting our asses whooped. I read some Toni Morrison, watched “Waiting to Exhale”, “The Color Purple,” and later in life would develop a taste for Tyler Perry plays. Yes, I did. Don’t kill me. I do enjoy a “Madea” joint every now and then to this day. Lastly, I grew up in a culture imbued by rap music. All of these examples of black media deal with romance where the black woman can have a happy ending…but not before she gets her head kicked in by her mama, “the streets”, her husband, “the man”, her own weight loss journey, or GOD. I hadn’t realized it then, but this type of media and my own personal upbringing had gotten me used to the idea that women were just supposed to suffer. So, when I saw something different, it kinda blew my mind. And this is what happened when I saw the anime: ”When Flowers Fall like Stars” The premise of this anime is very similar to the one in the A-ha video. The lead female, Kiku, falls into a book where she encounters a handsome, golden-hearted man named Hiro. He never tries to kick her head in, nor does he constantly make her suffer to prove herself to him. In fact, it’s the opposite; he makes the ultimate sacrifice for her safety. He treated her like she was precious or something...treated her with love. This was very different from the kinds of love stories I saw growing up. Women were precious in these anime. And they didn't have to constantly prove that they were. “Hiro” seemed to be the perfect man. I wondered if I’d ever find a guy as dashing and sweet as he was and be treated with love by anyone. I wished this anime could become real! But I didn’t pay attention to that little intro at the beginning of the anime series that explained the book was an incantation, and whoever completed the book (anime series) would get their wish. I didn’t really believe in the power of silly little things like that back then, especially in an anime cartoon. But I believe in them now. Be careful what you wish for, guys... I didn’t think it was possible, but it happened. I fell into a book and found Hiro… (You fell into a f*******:, right? A MacBook Pro?) Let’s just say… the story gets a little funny…