The Dependable Daughter

Hi, my name is Kiela Haze and I'm 26 but my story started a long time ago. This is a long story that might be a little twisted and load's of family drama and conflict. But, this is my life and everything that I have been through and the life lesson's that I have learned over time and the reason why I am currently the way I am and the reason behind the way I do things. Well, lets introduce the family and the dynamic of the situation. My name is Kiela and I'm currently 26. I am the oldest of 5 kids between both parents and the only female . I have 4 brothers and all of them younger. Yay Me !!!! So, the next one in line is Eric at the age of 24. He is a brother from my father's side and he is currently a state trooper working in South Florida . Next, in line is Aaron and he 22 and he is the only brother from my Mother's side. He currently works at Walmart in Central Florida in the meat department. Then, there is Bernard Joel at 21 and he is from my father's side . He is currently a video game tester who currently living in my house because he doesn't make enough to live on his own according to him. But, we call him BJ for short and he can be a sarcastic pain the butt or a shut in but we love him any way. The last, but not least and the baby of us all is Xaiver and we call him X. He is 18 and currently trying to graduate high school and make it into college and l currently lives with me as well. He is also from my father's side. Now, he is the parental dynamic and why the brother's are labeled from parental sides because here we go. My mom (Liza) was not 19 for 2 days when she had me . My Father (Mark) was also 19 . But, here is the thing. They were married for 3 weeks at 18 before they got divorced and before they found out that she was pregnant. Then enters, mom's second husband before I was born. His name is Brandon and lets just call him abusive d**k. He is someone that was not only physically and mentally abusive and but he was also very controlling and followed her around whenever she went out without him. I would also find out later on that it wasn't just her he would do that too. But, that's for later on. Anyway, they were only together for a short time before I was born but this caused massive issues around me being born. So, you see just me beimg born was a massive issue for half a dozen reason or more. But, Brandon is is being introduced now because he will reappear often in my life and none of it good. Next enter's, Dan and he is my mom's last husband and the one considered to be my dad ,since he has been around since I was 10 Months old and he is also Aaron's Dad. He helped to raise me when I wasn't with Mark. But, dont get me wrong there isn't the usual drama between my biological dad and step dad. They actually get along better then my bio dad and mom do sometimes. They actually grew up as bestfriends from kindergarden. Now, here is the thing I'm the only female of 5 children with 4 younger brothers. My mom is the youngest of 4 with 3 older brothers . with only 2 surviving out of 3. Mark was the middle child of 3 . He has one older brother and one younger sister. Now, I mention this because events and family issues from their lives affected the lives of us kids more then it probably should have. And I will mention that most of it was from moms side but Mark's family didnt make things any better either. I will mentioned one other kid that is my cousin from my moms side that was raised with us off and on especially seeing as she is only 7 months younger than me. Her name is Kat. Currently she is a Assited Living Nurse. Now, one of the things the both of us massively have in common is her parents are also divorced and have been since she was a baby as well. But, she is what everyone now would call a Karen. Now, I'm going to say that most of us kids lived and or grew up in my grandparents house from my mom's side. Yes, even my brother's from Marks side and if nothing else my grandpa loved all of us with everything he could possibly have. My grandmother she loved us kids but she was more of a drama queen and "the world should revolve around me when I say it should and god forbid if I don't get my way I will guilt trip you until you do no matter what age you are person." Now, in case you haven't figured out already already, marriage and loyalty and the ability to see people for what they are are some things that 99% of the members of either family don't excel at. 98% of my family on both sides have been divorced at least once, except my grandparents and even then, there was unfaithfulness in their relationship and that was on my grandmothers part and not my grandpa's . My Grandpa is the best person in my family and my favorite person out of everyone. Well, welcome to the family and I believe you now know at least a little bit about some of the main characters from my life and soon you will know and understand why. Don't get me wrong, there are more that are involved but they will get introduced later on when the time comes. But, now that you have met and have a vague visual of the dynamic. I will tell you I was the first person in the family to go to college for something more than a certificate. I'm also the only one in the family that has 2 bachelor's degrees and 3 associates that I got at the same time as working 2 full-time jobs and, yes, I'm only 26 . I also own my own house with a 15 year fixed mortage and own my own vehicle and I earned it all on my own. Now, I am telling you all this because once I really get to telling you my story you will truly understand why this is a massive accomplishment and something I am massively proud of . So, once again I say Welcome to my story. My name is Kiela Haze and I'm 26 years old and I hope once you hear my story it will give you a little perspective and maybe help give you some insight to some life lessons that I learned and maybe give you a third party outlook on some situations you might be going through in your life and help you out in some way. Maybe my story will save you some misery and heartbreak in the long run if any one is going through similar situations. I'm not stupid enough to believe that I'm the only one that has been through situations like that and I hope this helps.