Post Change and Revisiting the PastWhen I first saw my gender therapist, she asked who my role models were. I mentioned two male movie stars, but then she asked if I had any male role models in real life. I had to think, but then said simply, “No, but if anyone wants to know what a man is, then he can use me as a role model.” She never asked again.
Very early in our own separate transition paths, my wife and I met on ‘ElderTG’, an online support group for trans people over the age of fifty. We formed a spinoff group, writing as ourselves in our preferred gender, back in high school, called TGPlay. Although I came into the story as a frog-wielding twelve-year-old, we hit it off intellectually and decided to meet. When we did, we found we were quite comfortable with each other and that we h
