Growth

After a while "THE HURT", hurts less. You start to see the reason, you understand why they did what they did. Knowing that it takes two hands to clap, learn that not everyone you meet is meant to stay in your life forever, sometimes they're just a passing character in a chapter of your book, there to teach you a certain lesson, to help you grow and maybe to show you how to love yourself. It is important to learn and see the necessity to let them go, even if you don't want to.Yes, it will hurt, the kind of hurt that leaves you crying at 3am, the kind of hurt that follows you around everywhere - reminding you of all the memories you've shared, the hurt that leave you thinking if you ever meant anything to them you will need to surrender into those tears. Heartbreak is inevitable. One thing I've learned - you cannot have expectations, you cannot expect them to love you the same way you love them, with the same intensity.You face multiple heartbreaks, betrayals , and disappointments from those you held close to your heart. The people you thought were meant to stay by your side turn out to be a mere passing cloud in the sky disappearing as quickly as they had appeared.The hardest part about losing someone you love is not the goodbye, it's the learning to live without them, to not being able to see them, to not being able to speak to them or check up on them, but if you really love that person you would want them to be happy, even if that means that they are going to be happy without you. You will see your past life for what it was, so that you can see your present life for what is it - filled with hope and potential.Eventually you will get up and your life will start to change you will learn to accept yourself by being alone, you will start to see what self-worth is, you will feel confident in your own skin, you will find yourself doing new things, taking up new hobbies, laughing more, going to bed at ease and sleeping peacefully, you will begin writing, reading, working on self-improvement, doing things like going to the gym, drinking more water and feeling grateful for these simple nourishing things. Gradually you will start to return to yourself - reconnecting with yourself is important. In the healing process you learn how to press forward, how to live more intently and presently, you start to see things for what they are, you learn how to process your experience in real time. The more you do this the more you will begin to show up for yourself. You start speaking again, you start feeling again, you start being again.We are meant to change and designed to evolve. Releasing the past is a process, one that we have to learn. Going through hardship and difficult moments is all part of life, what I have come to learn is that no one is perfect and it's all about the type of mindset you have, and wanting to become a better version of yourself for yourself , accepting all your flaws - embrace them. Be happy on purpose - don't let other people determine your day or feeling. Finding self love I stood in front of the mirror, staring at my reflection. My eyes were tired, filled with battles and heartbreaks. It wasn't easy, but I had won many of those battles. However, the war was far from over. It was a constant struggle to remind myself that I was enough, even when someone else made me feel like I wasn't.There was always that one person who had walked into my life, taking my heart and tossing it aside like it meant nothing. I had given my all, yet it was never enough. But I realized that I couldn't continue to give all of myself to someone who couldn't see my worth. It was time to love myself. I remembered the words of wisdom I had heard countless times, "Love yourself first, and everything else will fall in line." It sounded cliché, but it was true. How could I expect someone else to love me if I didn't even love myself? It was time to start having conversations with myself, like I would with someone I loved dearly.I looked at myself in the mirror and spoke softly, "you are smart, strong, and beautiful. You are enough. You deserve all the love and happiness in this world." It felt odd at first, but slowly, those words started to sink in.I decided to make a list of my worth, how I wanted to be treated, and what made me happy. It was important to be clear about my expectations and not settle for anything less. I realized that I needed to teach others how to love me by showing them how I loved myself.One day at a time, I started to prioritize my own happiness. I stopped depending on others to bring me joy and instead found solace in my own company. It wasn't always easy, but I was determined to find the happiness within myself.As I began to treat myself with love and respect, I noticed a shift in my mental attitude. I started to believe in the love I deserved and slowly let go of the opinions and expectations of others. Their words and actions no longer had the power to dictate how I felt. I was my own person, and I held the key to my own happiness.There were moments of self-doubt and sadness, but I reminded myself that I had the power to choose how I wanted to feel. I didn't have to let the world or other people's judgments control my emotions. I was in control.I began to appreciate the person I was becoming, even if I wasn't exactly where I wanted to be in life. I embraced the messiness and confusion, knowing that growth was a messy process. Every step forward, no matter how small, was a victory.I let my own life inspire me. I focused on healing for myself, not for someone else's approval. I allowed myself to grow and learn, not for anyone else's benefit, but for my own personal development. This time, it was personal. It was about me, my happiness, and my journey. In the end, I impressed the only person who truly mattered – myself. I fell in love with the person I had become, with the strength and resilience that carried me through the toughest of times. I learned that seeking perfection was overrated, and instead, I aimed to be whole.I stood before the mirror once again, but this time, there was a sparkle in my eyes. The tiredness had faded away, replaced by a sense of peace and self-acceptance. I smiled at my reflection, knowing that I had finally found the secret to happiness – loving myself. You have come so far, you have learnt to let go of what is not meant for you and what is not beneficial to your growth. You have learnt to step over the boundaries of your worries, you don't constantly feel sad or depressed anymore. It has not been an easy road - in fact everyone's road has bumps in it, but it has opened your eyes to all the possibilities of what this life could be - even in your uncertainties. So continue to give it your all, continue to do your best at everything life throws at you, may it be big or small, continue to see even in your unnoticed work, you are still sowing seeds - growing. You are still making mindful steps towards where you are meant to be, you are still living a meaningful life. So make the necessary changes, let go of the things or people holding you back and even when you feel like you don't know where you going or what step to take next, know that u have boundless grace, giving you strength everyday to breath deep and keep going