leaving home
Amanda P.O.V
I am chimamanda Uzo, the first daughter and also first child of my parents Mr Micheal and Mrs Agnes Uzo. I have four other siblings which is normal in most Nigerian families.
In some other Nigerian families, you see parents with six, seven or more children. It is believed that children are blessings from God.
My family can pass as middle class family because, although we are not extremely rich, we never lack any basic amenity. We live in a comfortable three bedroom flat. our parents are traders but they are mostly strict. It is so bad that they don't even allow us mingle with other children in our compound.
My parents scare away our class mates who tried to befriend us with the reasoning that they will influence us negatively. To them other children are not well trained or disciplined
Most times, it seemed that my parents are more protective of me than my siblings. I feel that this is because I look a bit different from my family members. While every member of my family is dark skinned, I am very light skinned. However I obviously look more like my dad than my mom. My dad usually refer to me as his grandma. He believes that I am a reincarnation of his beloved grandma
I have always had this reoccurring nightmares starting from my age six. My parents have taking me to various pray houses in search of solution but it has not reduce. Some said I was possessed by water spirit. It became so annoying that I no longer let any one know about my dreams even though it has increased in frequency.
Mom still has her suspicion, hence, her increased protectiveness.
All our basic daily activities were usually done within the flat. we are not permitted to go down stairs and play with other children in our compound. The compound is a three story building with eight flat apartments. Everyday, after school, we come back to do our homework and chores before settling on the balcony or windows to watch and envy children from other flats playing together.
Right from basic school to secondary School, it has always been from school, Church or errands to the house. my parents believe that peer influence will make us turn bad. That explained why I am a timid person.
It took everything in me, to convince my mom to allow me to travel all the way from our house in Onitsha to Awka which was the town in which my school was located during my registration to University. That morning my mom was still not sure if it was the right decision to let me go alone.
Mom, I'm almost sixteen for God's sake, my mates are doing this for themselves. the first day we went to the school together, I was the only person that came with a parent and other students were looking at me as though I was still a kid.
"You are a kid". My mom responded, with a frown.
"don't think because you are now in the university, that you are all grown up, No, most of those people whom you saw that day have been over exposed to the evil of this society, and I wouldn't want to see you associate with them, understand?" she warned pulling her ears for emphasis
"yes Mom", I replied softly.
"But please let me do this, I am just going to submit these forms and get my matric number. please mom" I made my best puppy dog eyes
mom couldn't help herself. I knew she wouldn't resist my puppy dog eyes. That has always been my trick to get her do things my way. Although my parents are strict in bringing us up, they also love us silly. My parents are also very much in love with each other and they see us all as gift of love.
"Have some breakfast with us. we are all going to take you to the park before we drive your siblings to school." Mom ordered as she put some toast in my plate and poured tea in my tea mug. others were already eating as I took time getting ready and rechecking the contents of my file.
"Chizzy, you will now do most of the chores" I smiled and winked at my immediate younger sister who is sitting beside me.
"You are not serious, every one will work equally, I am not you that does most of the work. I can't kill myself to be a good gir"l she responded eyeing Kenny our first son who is her immediate younger.
"Sommy and I are boys, don't expect me to do house chores with you, maybe Ujay can help" Kenny responded with mouth full of bread.
"Boys my foot... "
"Hey, no fighting and no talking while eating" mom warned, cutting chizzy off.
We all continued to eat in almost silence, except for my dad, who will comment from time to time, adding to the numerous advice they had been giving me since the day I received my admission letter.
"The University is a world of its own. beware of wolves in sheep clothes, be wise like dove, face your studies;" he continued as he chew on his toast.
"Yes Dad, I won't disappoint you." I promised
My parents took me to the mass transit park at upper iweka, onitsha. All my siblings were there to say goodbye even though I was expected back home by evening after my registration process.
My siblings are all in different levels in college but just like with me, dad and mom preferred to take them to school and bring them home daily.
The bus left the park at exactly 7:30am. it was an hour drive from onitsha to Awka, the capital of Anambra state..
Everyone of my family members waved as the bus slowly made it out of the park.
looking at my parent's face, you will think that I was traveling out of the continent and not just to another town in same state. I wave back excitedly, it was the first opportunity to do things on my own.
yes, I am excited. I love my parents but their over protectiveness was begining to get on my nerves. Even in secondary School, I had always wished to attend boarding school in order to experience life away from home but my parents denied me that. they insisted I go to a day school and my mom made sure to take us to and from school everyday.
Most times when we pass by other children walking home and discussing along the road, my siblings and I are secretly jealous of their freedom, their carefree way. They play along the way and make friends.
However, I was lucky to be on my own for the first time today and I couldn't contain my excitement, not till I got to the school gate, that is when I realized that I don't even know how to start a conversation with strangers
Don't get me wrong. I am a straight "A" student that is why I am here to study medicine but socially, I am lost.
The first person I asked for directions, ignored me completely, the only action that proves that she heard me was, when she rolled her eyes and walked away. I was so confused. what did I do wrong. I had only walked up to her and said 'good morning with intention to Start a conversation?
The second girl replied my greetings but walked away after looking at me like I was wearing the back of my dress.
The guys who passed by will either coo or cat call. some will wink and say pretty or fine girl, pissing me off with the way they eye me like I were some food.
Remind me why I hate boys. mtswwww. they have a way of making girls feel like the only thing they noticed in you is your body as a s*x symbol.
Did I forget to mention that I went to an all girls secondary School, so the idea of interacting with boys that are not my family was unimaginable. so I didn't bother to ask for their help.
I stood awkwardly by the gate till I saw this very pretty plum sweet girl of about my age, with the most amazing set of gap tooth I have ever seen. she is light skinned like me but more classic.
I noticed her beautiful set of teeth as she got down from an expensive looking black SUV and was laughing at the joke or something funny the person in the driver's sit must have told her because she kept laughing while waving at him as he drove off.
On instinct, I convinced myself to ask for her help. so I walked slowly towards her as she approach me at the gate.
"E- excuse me, can you please direct me to the admission office? I shuttered nervously
"wow! she exclaimed. I am on my way to the office too. I need to pick up my matriculation number since I am done with my registration process." she replied enthusiastically
let's go. she said dragging me along.